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Biofuels: A Fake Climate Change Solution?

Thursday, March 13th, 2008 by Maryam Webster

I rarely make political statements, but this is one I happen to think is important, and it’s not about people, it’s about the environment. It’s a good point they’re making along the lines of  an untutored person thinking "if one pill is good, five must be better" and killing themselves through ignorance.  Biofuels are great, but the authors of this newsletter Avaaz (see below) have a good point about green technology caveats. Vote your conscience…




 Biofuels are billed as a way to slow down climate change. But in reality, because so much land is being cleared to grow them, most biofuels today are causing more global warming emissions than they prevent5, even as they push the price of corn, wheat, and other foods out of reach for millions of people6.

Not all biofuels are bad–but without tough global standards, the biofuels boom will further undermine food security and worsen global warming. Click here to use our simple tool to send a message to your head of state before this weekend’s global summit on climate change in Chiba, Japan, and help build a global call for biofuels regulation:

http://www.avaaz.org/en/biofuel_standards_now/9.php?cl=60989106

Sometimes the trade-off is stark: filling the tank of an SUV with ethanol requires enough corn to feed a person for a year. But not all biofuels are bad; making ethanol from Brazilian sugar cane is vastly more efficient than US-grown corn, for example, and green technology for making fuel from waste is improving rapidly.

The problem is that the EU and the US have set targets for increasing the use of biofuels without sorting the good from the bad. As a result, rainforests are being cleared in Indonesia to grow palm oil for European biodiesel refineries, and global grain reserves are running dangerously low. Meanwhile, rich-country politicians can look "green" without asking their citizens to conserve energy, and agribusiness giants are cashing in. And if nothing changes, the situation will only get worse.

What’s needed are strong global standards that encourage better biofuels and shut down the trade in bad ones. Such standards are under development by a number of coalitions8, but they will only become mandatory if there’s a big enough public outcry. It’s time to move: this Friday through Saturday, the twenty countries with the biggest economies, responsible for more than 75% of the world’s carbon emissions9, will meet in Chiba, Japan to begin the G8’s climate change discussions. Before the summit, let’s raise a global cry for change on biofuels:

http://www.avaaz.org/en/biofuel_standards_now/9.php?cl=60989106

ABOUT AVAAZ
Avaaz.org is an independent, not-for-profit global campaigning organization that works to ensure that the views and values of the world’s people inform global decision-making. (Avaaz means "voice" in many languages.) Avaaz receives no money from governments or corporations, and is staffed by a global team based in London, Rio de Janeiro, New York, Paris, Washington DC, and Geneva.

Eckhart Tolle in San Francisco - Preliminary Report

Friday, March 7th, 2008 by Maryam Webster

Eckhart Tolle with calico mittieHey there fellow Stillness fans. It’s not like Words can really capture an occasion like hearing Eckhart Tolle lecture, but I’ll try. I’m leaving in a few minutes for San Rafael, where we’ll hear Eckhart tonight from 8 - 9:30pm and Saturday from 1:30 - 4:30pm at the Marin Veterans Memorial Auditorium. If you’re there and find me, we’ll meditate together.

At right is a picture I found on Tolle’s website of him looking even more puckish than usual with a calico mittie. He often speaks of animals, cats in particular, as being more aware than we are. He once said the most accomplished Zen master he ever knew was a cat, so it’s not suprising to see him with one. What mutual delight on the faces of these two friends. :-)

Here’s what the event says about itself: "…Now you are invited to experience this visionary teacher in a live, face-to-face encounter. Here is a rare opportunity to be drawn into the "spaciousness that words can only point to" by the vibrant, conscious presence of Eckhart Tolle himself."

I’ve heard about the effects of an evolved spiritual teacher conferring shaktipat, spontaneous awakening and initiation, by merely sitting in the teacher’s presence. Where I have seen most reference to this is in what is said about the spiritual teacher Amma - the Hugging Saint as she is called. I have heard this said of Tolle as we. Without anticipation, am looking forward to feeling what a room full of people being in presence together will feel like.

It’s extraordinary how I’ve come to this feeling of not looking forward, yet taking all the actions I need to take to be there. An immense clearing occured this week that lasted four days. Before the clearing the mind was busybusybusy with monkey brained chatterings. As I reach today and am marvelling at how resilient the pain-body can be, yet also how easy to take out, once you know what it’s doing, a flushing of inattentiveness seems to have happened.

Presence is one of many states that I move in and out of as I continue coming to awareness of my own pain-body. To be constantly in that state must be truly miraculous. I will get back to you later on being in the presence of one who is there most of the time is like. 

8 Random Things About Me

Friday, July 27th, 2007 by Maryam Webster

A little late on the ball, but in response to biz-buddy Krishna’s tag in her post: 8 random things about me

Krishna  tagged me to write about 8 random things about myself so here goes. I’ve decided in typical me-style to be truly random…  ;-)

  1. Like Krishna, I’ll start with my name. "Maryam" is the name I took by requirement during my three-and-a-bit years as a practicing Muslim, circa 1981. It felt so much more "me" than my given name, I made it legal and permanent. "Webster" is an ancient name in my mother’s family line I re-monikered with after divorce.  It didn’t occur to me until I used my freshly-minted driver’s license as ID, that the combination together sounded similar to the name of a prominent dictionary. People have been reminding me of that (usually with laughter) ever since…
  2. When I first put up my website in 1996, I got a nastygram from the Merriam Webster dictionary people as I too am a prolific writer and produced tons of material that contained words in their book. Imagine the cheek, they said. They desisted after a spell of chatting with me. An almost magical sense of charm and persuasion goes a long way back among the women in my family.  
  3. I am a veteran of nearly thirty years in shamanic practice of both metis and Nordic medicine ways, and apprenticed fifteen years to a Missouri sweet medicine man, Corliss  "d" deLarm, who stands unequalled but by the Dalai Lama in spiritual presence, in my personal experience. I’ve taught the Nordic system of runes as healing, divinatory and spiritual advancement tools for about twenty-five years.  My, how Dagaz flies…
  4. Medicine BuddhaSpeaking of the Dalai Lama, I  have received two initiations from His Holiness Tenzing Gyatso, the Fourteenth Dalai Lama. The White Tara longevity empowerment and the Medicine Buddha initiation and blessing for my work in healing. It’s not as cool as you think though - I was one of about five thousand that day to receive these blessings.  And he was going along so fast in Tibetan you had a hard time keeping up with the visualizations of a white Buddha above a towering stack of golden Buddhas all holding lotus flowers and so on and so on.

    It worked though. About a month later I gashed the living daylights out of my thigh vacuuming (a dangerous profession), managed to clean the 2" deep wound out, instill betadine, close the wound with steri-strips and get a pressure bandage on it all while reciting the Medicine Buddha mantra and the husband was fainting dead away just at the sight of the thing. Chanted the whole way to the hospital and had an amazing personal experience with both Medicine Buddha and His Holiness, plus didn’t feel a thing when stitched. (12 stitches, 4" scar just above the knee) Cue doctor amazement and personal happiness…

  5. I have a broken back. Almost everyone’s heard this story but if you haven’t here’s the teacup version: Whilst living in Cambridge, England on a rainy night, drunk driver sails over the top of a roundabout and slams into my Mini van (Mini as in Cooper) causing iron box with heavy pipe wrenches to slam into my back. *crunch*  L4 cracked vertically, spinous process on L5 fragmented, spinal cord trauma. Had to move back to U.S. for surgery as in England, would have been on a two year wait just for a diagnostic MRI. Progressive paralysis. Spent a total of three years paralyzed from the waist down, intense surgery, six more years recovering mobility. Can walk, run, dance and hike now. Today, it’s only a problem if I don’t keep up vigorous exercising.
  6. My favorite form of exercise is hiking in the redwoods, but don’t get to do that every day. Yoga, I do every day and couldn’t live without it.  At right is me circa 2006 outside my old studio - Willow Glen Yoga in San Jose, CA with cone-head hair after the last downward facing dog of the day. Great yoga and good people - click my picture to go there. Been practicing yoga since 1974, when I learned in an afternoon class in junior high school. We learned straight-up hatha and our teacher busted our chops. Then and again, we were young and our chops could stretch a lot further in those days… My spiritual mentor d. deLarm extended this practice through the next twenty years in sharing the blessings of Integral Yoga. Balance Yoga (balancecenter.com) got me mobile again following my paralysis. Lately my passion is Yin Yoga (paulgrilley.com) as I’ve still got a lot of shortened tendons and stiff muscles. Yoga keeps ‘em limber and the mind, serene.
  7. not my cat but...cute!If you like cats and you’re a computer nerd, you might "has" seen the picture at left. (No, it’s not my kitties, it came from here) While I love friend’s children, I am blissfully child-free, though am mother to two mitties. (cats - mitten + kitty = mittie….don’t ask) They are dark charcoal fluffball, the Princess Anoushka and her lean grey huntress companion with the perfect white bikini, Tashi-Claire. The Bear wanted to name them Xena and Gabrielle but was overruled by the cats themselves who told us their names and insisted we use them.

    The mitties  exist in a partially contentious, partially collegial relationship and strictly enforce territorial limits of the garden. Tosh-cat is an avid bird watcher and is generally interested in the wildlife that pervades the area around the pool. Anoushka is a garage kitty and hangs out on the persian carpet under the Bear’s office chair, even on the hottest and muggiest of days. We figure her to be an adherent of Virginia Woolfe.   Myself and the Bear are seen as jailers and parental units. I love them unmercifully of which they are tolerant and accepting and both feed and comb them. But when the Bear is home, I am relegated to chopped liver status. They are the only cats I know who actually *dislike* chopped liver…

  8.  I am an accomplished frontierswoman. Though you wouldn’t think it to look at me, I can make my own paper and ink, spin, weave, dye woven goods with native plants, make soap in a cast iron cauldron, split logs, make brooms and other tools of wood and local plants, harvest and manage forest foods such as hickory nuts, boil the hickory branches to get  three kinds of food: salt, sugar and milk (yep, you can), muddle and sweeten ground roasted acorns for frontier flour, construct a log cabin (well, in theory, I only did it once and that was with a lot of help - those logs are heavy!), grow, harvest and make herbal medicines (plus know how to use them), midwife human and animal babies into the world, make shoes from leather, plants or refuse such as old tires (great for treads), set, manage and harvest a trotline for fish, snares for rabbit and quail, plus skin and dress the meat if called upon to do so (not my favorite thing) and tan the skins. I can build a fire with a bow drill and pine duff or other local tinder, though it takes a long time. I can construct a shelter out of almost any material available, and find food in a forest even in winter. What’s more, I have a hardy spirit and am a survivor, born of a long line of women who persisted, shared their knowledge and endured to win in life.

    I’ve not been called on to do any of these frontier tasks in a long time, but the memory still persists. My mother was a great one for recapturing the pioneer spirit and my great grandmother on my father’s side up in the Smoky Mountains of Carolina (they really do look like they’re smoking - see?) thought a girl child should know how to weave and dye and make soap, ink, paper and so on. 

    The picture above  right is in front of the National Frontier Trails Center in Independance, MO, close to my hometown, and she was always pointed out as a model to follow. Though I must say I adore my computer, electric fans, swimming pool and other modern conveniences, if and when the lights finally go out, I’ll know what to do. Can’t buy that kind of peace of mind, plus it’s a joy to know you can survive by your own efforts. 

So now it’s my turn to tag eight people so I’ll now ask some of my great "virtual crushes" I’ve connected to through life, business, blogging and sharing personal energy, to share 8 random things about themselves. Over to you folks:  Suzanne Falter Barnes, Jen Louden, Andrea Lee, Ellen Britt, Betsy Muller, Gloria Arenson, Sarah Zeldman, Jasmine White and Vikki Hoobyar…  

For Love of Kim: Derek Trucks v1.0

Thursday, May 31st, 2007 by Maryam Webster

I have a friend whom I dearly love - Kim George, author of Coaching Into Greatness and Director of the AQ Institute. A couple of weeks ago I had the pleasure of hanging out in Kim’s home for a week, and being her guest at a concert by acknowledged "young guitar god", Derek Trucks.

Kim wanted to introduce me to Derek’s work because he is, quite honestly, probably the greatest guitarist now living. Or at least one of the mega-greats. You look at what he does with his fingers and listen to the virtuosity, and  your mouth simply falls to the ground. It’s the kind of good that spins your heart, stomach and head all in different directions and leaves you wanting much, much more. Emotions you didn’t know you had bloom suddenly and make you ache, but in a good way. You don’t want the set to end. But I digress…

Some might know Derek as an Eric Clapton protege, or from his work with the Allman Brothers. But on May 17th in Torrington, Connecticut at the palatial Warner Theater, it was solely the Derek Trucks Band, resplendent in its own celebratory glory. 

We got there from deep in the wilderness of Massachussets through the backwoods express route into what seemed like nowhere. Thanks, Google Maps. After miles of beautiful trees, lakes, herds of man-sized mosquitoes, cud-munching Guernseys and a medieval fortress dam or two (one wondered if we hadn’t taken a turn into the Twilight Zone) we arrived in Torrington and had the time of our lives.

Kim has been a fan for ages, and I was a virgin conquest, brought to be sacrificed upon the altar of good music. My heart thumped, thighs quivered and as many before me, I became thoroughly infected with the DTB virus. We all had the DTB’s pretty bad, to be honest. But if you haven’t seen and heard Mr. Trucks and his quirky, amazing fellow musicians, you are missing one heck of a treat. They not only roll out good rock, soul, jazz, r&b and blues, but the personalities of each musician are as engaging as their repertoire. Holy hit parade Batman, but the dude can rock SOLID! If you’re into fancy fretwork, Derek Trucks is your man.

I snuck in my Casio Exilim and managed a few short  and shaky vidcaps between security-guard strafings, the light flashing from an adjacent teenager playing games on his cellphone, and bobbing and weaving of the extra-large-headed fellow right in front of my lens. There was by way of compensation, a nice fellow sitting next to me named John, who interestingly is moving to nearby Walnut Creek within the month. (Dude! Meet you at the Fillmore!)  He and Kim exchanged emails and furtive plans to move items of fandom across state lines…which I am assured is all quite legal…. 

Not my best, but here for Kim and the rest of the excessively *rabid* Derek Trucks fans, (and they’re all rabid) is this five minute-sumpin’ Video.  Be mindful of your speakers, download at will, and Enjoy…


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Off To Boston!

Monday, May 14th, 2007 by Maryam Webster

By the time you read this, I’ll be on a jet plane and flown off to Massachussets to visit NLP and Coaching friends, do a little teaching, a smattering of processes and have a lot of fun. When I get back in a week, I’m sure I’ll have plenty of stories to tell and new processes to share as I’m meeting with, among other colleagues, good buddy and NLP legend, Harvard Business School’s own Stever Robbins. It’s bound to be fun and there will be declaiming on Cambridge Common to be listened to. Come join me for a picnic lunch if you’re on Cambridge Common by the Whitefield Elm at noon, this Friday, May 18th. I’ll be speaking on Energy Therapies and I’d love to meet you!

Until next time, don’t forget the fabulous giveaway going on ONLY until the END OF MAY at:

http://maryamrecommends.com/selfimprovement.html

TONS of self improvement gifts, freebies, software, memberships and so on.

And just wait for tomorrow, when you’ll see quite a DIFFERENT face on the "improve thyself" ticket.

Wait for it!

Love & Blessings,
Maryam

Bits & Bobs & Boxes

Wednesday, April 11th, 2007 by Maryam Webster

…were scattered all over the place until just today. Still a cadre of boxes awaits in the garage. Wowser, has the unpacking ever been intense! Getting back to blog soon but the cool things where we are right now:

  • a massive and research-friendly library nearby that doesn’t mind you setting up a laptop and staying awhile…
  • a WholeFoods Market & Trader Joe’s just down the street - no hiking far afield for organics…
  • Huddart County Park (acres of REDWOODS - woo!), up high in the hills near where we live…
  • the joy of seeing tall ships (for which read "clipper" - yes, real ones!) sailing by the hubby’s office window…
  • air that is much, MUCH cleaner than in the valley (San Jose, Silicon Valley) and much cooler…
  • the pool Kraken. The hubby, a mythology buff, has dubbed the little robot that floats around the pool on a tether and vacuums up fallen leaves and other tree debris, "the Kraken". Presumptuous thing - it snuck up and suckered my leg once, nearly scaring me out of a few year’s growth.

Blissful Moments: In the San Francisco peninsula piedmont , it is far too cold to actually use the pool until late May. (oddly enough said pool is shaped like a gigantic piece of candy corn…) But the sun shines bright, the winds blow cool and pleasant and herbs are beginning to poke up tiny shoots in the kitchen window greenhouse - parsley, miniature basil, lemon basil, chervil, chives, cilantro, tarragon, savory, variegated sage, oregano and lavender. The summer will be rife with tasty morsels and fragrant moments….  

Powerful “END 9/11 Anxiety” Class Audio - Now Available

Monday, September 11th, 2006 by Maryam Webster

Just Say No To The Tribal Painbody"Thank You, Thank You!!!! The call today was far better than my expectations. The best $20.00 I have ever spent."

- Elaine F, participant

In this multi-modal hour long class, you will learn what our "Tribal Painbody" is and how to overcome it, how to get FREE ONCE AND FOR ALL from overwhelming feelings of national trauma such as 9/11, and general feelings of unsafety regarding terrorism, abduction and personal bodily harm.

A powerful meditation, releasing and re-framing of the gifts we now can accept into our lives on this fifth anniversary of the terrorist attacks of 9/11. The choice to unhook from our primitive survival-based urges, the acceptance of complete freedom and the ability to feel calm and relaxed around this and other national and personal tragedies.

Not to be missed!

You can now Purchase the MP3 of the call by clicking here

Or here, if you’re sending the URL to someone in email:

http://snipurl.com/Sept11thTeleclass

Enjoy!

Warmly, Maryam

Marc Harty, Triumphant!

Friday, September 8th, 2006 by Maryam Webster

Marc_madeit (At left is the "after" picture of a man basking in some well-earned praise. For the "before" and "during" of this little adventure, see below)

I like to provide stories for my readers that illustrate triumphs of the spirit, will and in this case, sheer brute force. In this latest of the genre, my new friend and SEO/PR Traffic expert Marc Harty manfully climbs a perilous knotted rope into Suzanne Falter-Barns son Luke’s bedroom window. It’s worthwhile to point out that said bedroom window is on the inside of the house twenty feet above the floor, and the  house in question is a rustic and beautifully restored 18th century inn in upstate New York.

A delightful gaggle of internet marketers and cool people gathered at Suzanne’s this past July to get to know one another better outside the crush of conference time, where barely a few moments intimacy are possible between one seminar and the next. Included were the divine Yvonne DiVita of Dickless Marketing and the Lipsticking Blog and her delightful partner Tom Collins (no relation to the drink), the vivacious and engaging Lena West of The Technology Diet with partner Eric of-the-gorgeous-deep-voice (who alas! does not have a website, but IS available for voiceovers - ask Lena), plus Marc and of course, myself.  Blogwild author and good buddy Andy Wibbels tried mightily, but was not able to be present due to some freakish Chicago weather. (the same weather that delayed my plane 30 hours…but more about that later) Both he and Andrea Lee, who was double booked, were sorely missed.

Meanwhile for your enjoyment (drum roll please)…

"LAY-DEES AND GENTLEMEN! Mr. MARC HARTY will now attempt for your VIEWING PLEASURE, fearless feats of DEATH-DEFYING cunning and simian-like DEX-TER-ITY  Take it away, Marc!"

 

New York, New York & Our Very Vegan Adventure

Tuesday, May 9th, 2006 by Maryam Webster

New York is interesting. I’m here just prior to the Power of Collaboration conference with Andy and Lisa, hanging out in Nanda’s VERY cool apartment that we’re renting for the week. It’s an amazing flat. It’s decorated in World-Beat chic, with a darling, private little inner-city garden in the back complete with resident rat population (so cute! however, I am the only one who thinks so) and assorted neighborhood kitties.

Oh and Vegan-Ville. Quintessence Cafe, the East Village, right across from our apartment. I just had to go there as Quintessence was the name of my coaching business when I first started out. Quintessence is an all raw-food restaurant about the size of a long slender shoebox. A tiny but chic burrow in this most trendy little niche of NY and not a normal bite of food in the lot.

It was mostly great all but for the pumpkin pie, which tasted like makeup. The spinach-nutcheese rollups were fantastic (you couldn’t even taste the zucchini!), Lisa’s "Pete’s Pot" soup was a superb gazpacho though the California pizza was done on a very strong tasting base of veggie juice pulp Essene bread with a predominantly acidic taste of sundried tomato. Andy’s eyebrows shot up into his hairline over the pasta (spaghetti squash strands) alfredo that he indignantly whispered "isn’t alfredo, dammit!" and gnocchi that was really still-wet falafel dough, outside browned in a slow oven over a period of hours. Overall a nice place, food mostly good and a grand stage for people watching.

Other characters in the City:

Laila, the Beautiful - Speaking of cute kitties, there’s an amazingly cute one at the corner Arab grocery store. Her name is Laila and she is the spitting image of our darling Anoushka when she was that little. I gave Laila ear scruggles and played with her at length - her tiny fishbone sharp teeth nibbled at the tips of my fingers as she purred in pleasure at the skritching. Such a sweetheart and so very, very tiny. What a cool little present in the middle of the day. Gratitude to you O Laila the Beautiful, for the gift of love untrammelled.

The Lady in Pink - 60 years old if she was a day in all-pink miniskirt, pink and black striped hose, fuschia stilettos, Pepto-Bismol bolero jacket and hot pink boa. (yes - a boa) Babbling to no one in particular, she walked up and down 10th street outside our perch in Quintessence Cafe, finally darting across the street and surreptitiously muttering her order to Serge, our waiter. Gratitude to you Pink Lady, for brightening up our day.

Ramtha of the Bathouse  - We’re right next to a gay bath house advertising "Turkish! Russian! Baths!" and while dining, a gentleman emerged wearing a flowing white robe, a satisfied smile and little else, smoking his Black Russian with gusto. He had a lively, ministerial looking back and forth with the construction workers who were busily hurking junked cars into dumpsters in the brownstone next to us (well, it was really rebuilding the second story, but sounds like flinging cars carcasses when you’re in bed in morning waking up to such cacophony), and returned to the depths of Gehenna. Gratitude to you, O Ramtha of the Baths, for wisdom received.

The Tiny-Dog Ladies - Many women passed the restaurant in nice clothing with tiny bark-y dogs in nice clothing. Tiny dog sweaters in slate blue, cream, burgundy and spruce. Tiny dog t-shirts with political slogans and "I’m Mommy’s Good Boy!" in contrasting colors. Tiny doggie voices loudly proclaiming their doggie-ness. Fights break out when two such good boys meet. Gratitude doggie ladies, for reminding us to smile.

And across the street and down a bit is the Chinese Tui-Na massage place which appears to be legit. Lisa and I are totally going in for a tuneup tomorrow, just before Michael’s book party. And the $20 manicure/pedicure place around the corner, yes, yes, yes. Gratitude for small blessings and friends to appreciate them with.

ACEP Conference, Coaching Differs from Therapy, Being Selfish

Sunday, May 7th, 2006 by Maryam Webster

The past few weeks have been a mad whirl of activity, planes, cabs & road trips. May is conference and trainings month. Every therapist or coach worth their sheepskin constantly updates their training and meets with peers and colleagues on a regular basis to share research, successful processes and for networking and general fellowship opportunities. Mine included one Energy and one Coaching conference this month, plus an advanced NLP training.

In the first week of May I attended the Association of Comprehensive Energy Psychology’s 9th Annual International Conference which went wonderfully. I ended my term as Communications Director but was asked to stay on in an advisory position to the Board, which I agreed to. More fun: Past ACEP President Gloria Arenson and I are forming an ACEP Members Special Interest Group for writers on ‘Getting Published’. This will be tremendous fun. More info to come.

I finally got myself a Freeze Framer from the HearthMath people (www.heartmath.org) and we’ve had fun playing with it, getting our hearts in congruence. A more indepth report on this amazing technology to come.

Dr. Luke Cua fixed my nagging back sprain-pain with two needles and lots of breathing in the exhibition hall. If you have a chance to get an appointment with him do so - he’s amazing! You can find out more here:

http://www.newvita.com/

The presentations by Dr. Judith Orloff, Bruce Lipton and Nan Lu were amazing. Nan Lu was particularly entertaining. Full of amusing anecdotes that taught with humor, Nan Lu is someone you’ll want to see in public if at all you can. Women interested in natural weightloss and breast cancer prevention will want to check out his books. Dr. Lu’s informative website is here:

http://tcmworld.org/

Yesterday, I gave a well-received presentation entitled "Quantum Leaps: Integrating Energy Psychology with Performance Coaching for Outrageous Client Success". I was told to expect ten participants, and 43 showed up, packing out the room. Wow! Talk about a turnout! Just goes to show that coaching with an energy focus is beginning to come into its own.

Needless to say I didn’t make enough copies of my notes and needed to run a sheet to mail them out to interested participants. As I am just getting back home from my travels, to those of you who were there and asked, they’re in the mail as I write. It was interesting to note among the many eager to learn, there were one or two psychotherapists who seemed to feel threatened by the mention of coaching.

When given the definition of coaching as working on an extremely high-functioning client’s projects with a goals, vision, mission and purpose - one participant piped up "But that’s what I do as a therapist!" and was distressed to think that "coaches are overstepping their boundaries into therapy". But given that psychotherapy is professionally defined as the diagnosis and treatment of mental dysfunction, this is actually where psychotherapists are overstepping their boundaries into a Coach’s territory. Working with highly functioning clients may be something that therapists do, but it would at that point technically be coaching and deserves by both professions to be delineated as such.

Conversely when discussing a particular example clinet, a gentleman took umbrage at my suggestion that coaches work with a client’s stated goal. He said "What, you mean even those that are selfish or aren’t altrustic goals?"  As I was watching the clock, this wasn’t the time to get into that wonderful Coaching Presupposition "Thou Shalt Be Selfish", but let me go there now…

If you don’t know what you want for yourself, you will never have anything worth having. If you don’t know how you want your life to go, your life will occur at random, and will be attracted towards the strongest energy in it. As that focus in the human species is usually negative, concentered around "what I don’t want"/"what I won’t put up with" - that will tend to be what you attract. (weird, but unfortunately true) Being Healthily Selfish is one of personal coaching’s treasured tenets. When I take superb care of myself, I can better care for others.

The corollary to this kind of Selfish is the instruction you hear on an airplane - you are asked to put your own oxygen mask on before you assist others. If you wait, you may not be around to assist others. This isn’t the selfish of refusing to share your toys, it’s the selfish of refusing to share yourself when you are debilited, decimated and need to recharge. That, is a "healthy" kind of selfish. And to frame that in the positive: Make sure your own needs are taken care of first, before your day serving others begins. Make sure to always, in every situation, feed, water and put your own oxygen mask on first, before giving to or engaging with others. That’s the kind of Selfish that everyone should be.

And what about only altruistic goals? Well, it’s not a Coach’s position to judge a client’s goals - whether they are right or wrong or whether they are good or bad for the client. We can comment, we gan give the benefit of our experience and wisdom to clients, but as a rule, Coaches unconditionally champion the client’s goals, unless they are obviously contravening the law, or our personal ethics. If you can’t or won’t do that, you’re not in a position to be a good Coach.

Who are we to judge what is right for another? That kind of superiority is what many therapy clients are used to seeing, hearing and feeling from their therapists. (I speak as a former therapist in this) And in its own time and place, it can be a useful tool of therapy in the initially needy and codependant stages. But it is not and never will be a tool or mindset of Coaching.

Key Distinction: Coaching is not about "fixing" people or seeing them as broken, imperfect or dysfunctional. Coaching is about seeing, eliciting and championing the client’s own inherent greatness, and using that resource state to fuel their goals, passion, vision and mission in life.

Interesting thoughts and interesting conference…

I look forward this week to flying to Manhattan for the Power of Collaboration Conference. Reports, as and the time to post manifests!  :-)


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