Our Evolution as a Species: Through You, But Not of You
Tuesday, May 25th, 2010 by Maryam Webster
I’ve been doing a lot of thinking & research on something interesting happening right now: the transformation of our species at the sub-DNA/energetic level. I’ve been tracking changes in human energetic evolution from the time I was born. You could say it’s a hobby.
Is it such a leap from accepting that electrons exist, to see, feel and experience the sub-physical energy template that our bodies, animals, plants, our houses, what we think and feel – that everything is made of? For me, as for many out there, it’s a logical conclusion.
Even though we can’t see energy (though many people can)
Even though we can’t feel it (though you can learn to)
Even though at some levels it’s not measurable by some instruments (though it is by others)
We are changing our DNA at the energetic level, yes, but also the energy itself and our ability to perceive, receive and know it, is also changing.
The human family is experiencing a sense of opening up to greater flow and capacity of energy and the knowledge of how to shape it.
Have you noticed that today’s children are markedly more capable and creative and just brilliant than generations that went before? It’s not only that each generation thinks this, but that today’s kids have access to exponentially more resources and energetic frequencies than we did when we were their age – we have increased our capacity to perceive, know, be and receive so much more that today’s children are coming in solving problems in first grade we didn’t even know about until college. Really.
People who would not have talked about or accepted energy healing in years past are now scheduling regular Reiki or EFT sessions. Older forms of relating to each other are falling away and going from a society of individualists to one which is coming more and more to the model of co-creating our futures together.
Abraham talks about evolving through the contrast you have drawn towards you. You draw to you the people, places, situations and physical symptoms which are in opposition to, and give you a benchmark of what you really want. We can’t know what light is without experiencing dark and vice versa. We draw a crappy relationship to show us how we really want to be treated.
This is also how we learn as children. We don’t know true happiness until we have experienced unhappiness. We don’t know what we want to grow up and be until we sample various careers, dream about what we want from life, experiment, get happy with something and go for it. When we’re kids, doing what feels good is so easy, there’s no resistance, no putting others’ needs, preferences and shoulds/musts/oughts first.
If we could only keep this perspective when we grow up!
Sometimes, this is the hardest thing as a parent to allow their children to do.
Wayne Dyer quoting Lao Tzu on children said poignantly:
“You do not own your children, they come through you but are not of you”.
Children have their own dharma or mission and purpose in life Dyer says, it is not your business as a parent to try and force them into anything they do not want.
We are each born with an inbuilt sense of guidance – our Bliss Compass – that if we allow it, will unerringly point us the way to our True Mission.
Great advice for parents and teachers. Through us, but not of us. We don’t own them, it’s not our business to program them. Guide them through the minefield of early life, then let them do what they were uniquely put here for.
Many people live miserable, broken-hearted lives, still slaves to mom and dad’s idea of how the world “has to be”.
Can we please stop forcing children into molds they don’t want, can’t use and have to go to a therapist thirty years in the future to spend five years undoing, so they can do what will truly make their hearts sing?
Parents, you don’t want that kind of life for your children.
No matter how cool or clued-in we are, we really don’t know what’s good for our kids past teaching them how to use available resources and keeping them from killing themselves or anyone else until they’ve reach the age of majority.
Just watching friends children has been a remarkable education in how super-proficient kids are today and at younger and younger ages. Only they can find their own true path in life.
What we can do as parents is to support that and be open to where our children’s path takes them.
Thank them for who they are, what they offer, and how they have chosen to manifest.
They came through you, but are not of you.
Use this powerful moment to release any attachment to how things “should” be, “must” be or “could have” been, and any thoughts of needing to control. Allow the “through” part of Lao Tzu’s statement to be the energy you breathe these attachments out on.
Breathe out the need to control how children grow, what they prefer, how they choose to shape their lives.
Our urges towards control are about us, not about your child or anyone else. They mean we are far from our own Source Energy or Unlimited Self. Step back into Unlimited Self, center in your own Source Energy and the need to control others will dissolve.
Thank you to my beloved Mother for asserting when I was in the cradle and every day from that time until her death and beyond, that I could do anything I set my mind to.
She was right, and I thank her once again for that invaluable support. I realize many people weren’t lucky enough to grow up with a supportive parent.
If you were pushed from childhood to be something your parents thought you should be, and you really don’t want to be, there are decades of deferring to others and the now-strong sense that you must bow to the desires of others to deal with. You can Transform this, as all things.
We are in the continual process of transforming, as a species
As Generative Creators of our lives we are in constant evolution. Life itself flows through us, but is not of us. As a species making important energetic and physical transitions and upgrades in all of our systems, we transform what we can in our lives, keep what works, and discard the rest.
We incrementally improve ourselves as a clump, and as individuals by allowing transformative energies to flow through us, and not become “of us”, or get stuck in our energy field.
When we fix our thoughts, feelings or beliefs around an idea, belief or situation, the energy creating it stagnates and creates discomfort. When we let our energy flow freely by releasing attachment to ideas, beliefs and outcomes, we can most easily transform.
Here’s a scenario I’m seeing that tends to be one pathway people are choosing to use to get themselves to wake up:
First we we get angry about the circumstances of our life and how crappy it is. Out of this comes the realization of the importance of what the Truth is about our situation. The fact that we’re not “Living Our Truth”, has caused our life to become negative and uncomfortable. And…
…a lot of indicators come into our lives as we continue to yearn towards that Truth that show us…
What we’re really yearning for is connection to our own Source Energy/Unlimited Self. We have diverged widely from Source with everything in our lives that we chose to feel badly about. What we choose to feel badly about = things our energy is stuck/fixed/stagnant around.
And out of this comes the understanding that…
Feeling Bad = Going away from Source energy/our True or Unlimited Self
Feeling Good = Going towards or being at one with Source Energy/Unlimited Self
We learn that whenever we Feel Good, things tend to happen smoothly and the things we wanted just fall into our laps as if by magic. And more opportunities to feel good manifest, the more we work for everyone feeling good.
In this paradigm, the equation for success in life, real success, looks like this:
Feeling Good + Focus on Feeling Even Better + Joyously Living in Service = Incredible Growth individually & collectively. We realize this is how we achieve reconnection to Source.
And the fact that Who We Are is not divisible from Source Energy.
And that everyone else, and all that surrounds us is made of the same thing…Source Energy
and that we’re always changing…
…through us, not of us….
Transforming yourself can be a sticky wicket. Even after many years of self-work, you can still get caught out in traps from childhood like having fixed images of what we or our children should, could, ought or must do, be or have.
More parental programming to undo. A delicate balance to maintain.
Flow through, release, let go.
It’s so easy…just relax into it.
Stay centered in who you really are:
Not your parent’s programming.
Not your partner’s.
Nobody else’s.
Just the Real you….
Your Unlimited Self.
A Question From Me To You:
How do you balance your evolution, that of your energy body and all your systems, with those parental programs that work, with those that don’t?
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