Everyday Bliss

“Doggone our families! Why can’t they just ‘get’ us sometimes?”. Lia, who’s been mentoring with me for several years was quite cross over her sister’s unwillingness to use EFT to deal with her marital breakup. Lia had cured her sugar addiction in coaching with me using EFT and wanted badly to help her sister, Martha.

Martha felt EFT was “too weird” however, and wouldn’t discuss it further, telling Lia “that stuff’s okay for you but it’s just too way out there for me”. Lia was frustrated, sick with worry for her sister (which we tapped on) and didn’t know what to do next.

I can SO relate.

When I first started to share energy coaching with my non-energy-savvy family, they raised their eyebrows, laughed, politely patted my hand and said “it’s great you found a hobby, dear”.

Most of us have had friends or relatives roll their eyes at one another and been the odd duck out in more traditional circles when we try to share energy transformation modalities.

But there’s a great way you can get people into the joys of living a clearer, happier life through energy work. And that is….

Drop the jargon.

Don’t say one acronym – not ETHOS, not EFT, not BSFF or any of the hundred others you might know.

In fact, don’t talk about the tool at all.

Just casually talk to your friends or family members about how they feel. And as you’re speaking with them about what isn’t right in their life, as they are in the depths of the “Dang it, if only I’d have had the guts to….” or “It just KILLS me that I didn’t…” or “I can’t stop thinking about it, and it’s driving me nuts!”

Ask: “How would you rather feel?”

This usually stops people in their tracks.

“Huh?” they’ll say “What do you mean?”

“I mean, what would you really want to feel like, if you could drop this feeling of (hurt, anger, betrayal, jealousy, guilt, shame etc.)?”

Then listen and be really open to what they are telling you without the NEED on your part to fix them, or what’s going on.

Your dropping the need you have to make it all better for other people is HUGE!

When I realized this, and simply listened without attachment to the other person’s outcome (and we’re talking about people I’d gladly give my life for, dear friends and family members), all of a sudden, THEY became more open to what I had to say about HOW to make their situation better.

Then, when they’ve told you how they’d rather feel, acknowledge what they’ve said and ask them:

“Would you like to get a little bit of the way to that place right now?”

If they say yes, then if you practice EFT for instance, get them to tap their HAND points as they tell you their story. Importantly, get them to rate their SUDS or intensity of feeling BEFORE you begin tapping.

And chances are, you’ll get them a good piece of the way down the road, not just a little bit, but it’s a good clean-energy practice to under-promise and over-deliver. That way, folks you’re working with get that extra bit that makes them feel like they got a bonus for free. And that’s something we all love. 

It’s important to start off with something they won’t immediately dismiss as weird looking or “too much to remember”. Using just the hand points addresses a large amount of the person’s intensity level without the overwhelm the whole EFT “recipe” can bring new tappers.

You tap, and tell them just to follow what you’re doing as they tell their story. By and by they’ll be on autopilot, tapping their finger points and karate chop point and telling their story.

As they tell their story, tail enders will come up, guide them to tap on these using just the hand points as well.

When they’ve been talking and tapping for about five minutes, ask them to rate their SUDS or intensity level again.

Most will find a few points shaved off, if not more. I’ve had family look at me with surprise on their faces and say bluntly “I thought all that stuff was just [*steer manure*], but I’ll be doggoned, this [*manure*] really works!”

Now, they enthusiastically tap with other family members who think they’re just as cuckoo as I am.

But they feel better about themselves and their lives. And I don’t care if they think I’m cuckoo, as long as we all feel the best we possibly can.

Because, and this is another important lesson, especially for newbies, the better we feel, the more better feeling experiences we attract.

And that’s a story for another day.

I hope this has been helpful. Let me know how you’re teaching your family to use the energy methods you know and love – you can put a post in the forums or in a blog on the ETHOS Community at:

http://ethosmethod.ning.com

Or feel free to leave a comment on this post below – use the handy-dandy tools in the orange bar at the bottom of the page to keep up the conversation!

Happy Valentine’s Day to you & a lovely rest of the week!

Warm Blessings,
Maryam

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If you haven’t yet encountered Emotional Freedom Techniques or EFT, you’re in for a treat. If you’re an old hand, you’ll still enjoy this “spiritual documentary” (a la “The Secret”) style introduction to what EFT can do, and features some of my most esteemed colleagues. Really beautiful work – pass this one along to your friends and families. And, as Gary is retiring March 1st and has said he will be taking his website down, if the link at the end no longer works, you can download a free “EFT Quickstart” from me, here (will open in a new window)

http://maryamwebster.com/eftbasics/

EFT Works Great for Pain

I know. I used it to help me end years of chronic pain from a broken back, and to heal those tissues and  even grow new bone. Oh yes, you really can. EFT is a really great introduction to energy magic for people of all ages, cultures and belief systems. Pass this one on too. You can use a sophisticated Energy Coaching technique called “Borrowing Benefits” to tap along with Gary here as the pain is tapped out. Just think of your own pain for a moment, then let it go and use the lady’s set-up phrasing and reminder phrases. Tap right along. Get over it.

GREAT back pain release video

This one is from Robert Smith. He’s a wonderfully intuitive EFT practitioner and teacher. Beautiful NLP related interventions and submodality shifting for you NLPers in the community. Enjoy this video and especially if you had back pain like I did, this will be a welcome relief. Again Borrow Benefits, as you tap along with Robert and the lady with horse related issues…and a big pain in her back that goes away in a really interesting process:

Can KIDS do EFT? You bet’cha! (they’re a lot smarter than we are, y’know?)

I’ve taught children young as four how to tap with EFT and though I don’t have one, I highly recommend a Tappy Bear.  (I turned my childhood bear into such a happy tapping guide a few years ago) They’re the BOMB for teaching EFT to kids! Enjoy this wonderful video from Karin Gustafson teaching a little boy how to tap with a homemade tapping bear. The giggles alone are worth listening – and Borrowing Benefits – through the whole video. For those who don’t resonate to “I’m a good boy” – “I’m okay and feel grrrrreat!” is a good substitute.

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There’s nothing for revealing the truth like a chat with a girlfriend. I was talking this summer to my bookkeeper and gal pal Paula about how much we loved our lives and why others we knew didn’t. Paula said to me “You know Maryam, people just want to feel good about themselves. But in this economy, and with all the violence going on in the world, they just don’t. What can we do to help people out?”

Why don’t people love their lives? It’s a question that has driven many of us (me included) into therapy, coaching, spiritual studies and years of self-examination. For many here, it’s what has driven us to divorce, separation and anxiety-driven lifestyles.

We talked some more about how much of what appears in our lives is illusory, and how people sometimes buy into illusions that make them miserable. People are going through some very hard times caused by those illusions right now and misery is widespread. The rough truth of this caught my attention – this is something I can help with, I thought.

I examined my life to determine why, other than the obvious,I loved my life when many with far more in the way of possessions and prestige seemed so miserable. I came to some valuable conclusions that I wanted to share with you, as I believe just examining these issues in your life can make you so much happier. I am presenting these as coaching questions for you to use alone or with a mastermind partner or coaching buddy, and to pass on to those whose happiness you care about.

Powerful Coaching Questions
To Start Loving Your Life Again

1)  If you shed the false illusions you live under, you’ll be a lot happier. An example of a false illusion might be “If s/he falls in love with me, my life will be perfect.” That makes YOUR emotional state dependent on the whims of someone else. Who may never fall in love with you, or if they do, may turn out to be a nightmare.

Same thing goes with “When I win the lottery, I’ll finally be happy” or “When the divorce finally comes through I’ll be happy”. Why wait? Choose to be happy today, regardless! Happiness is available to both princess and pauper. What we think of as externally-created emotions are ALL self-generated chemical combinations cooked up inside your own body. YOU have the power to change your emotional state simply by choosing what you want. So ask yourself: “What is True about this situation?” All of it? None of it? 15% of it?

What is yours, take responsibility for and change. What comes from someone else, give back.

To do that, ask of unwanted emotions: “Who does this belong to?”  Is the illusion self-created, or another person’s that you’ve bought into? Women are tremendously sensitive to energy. Oftentimes the angst, sudden anger or even menstrual cramps you’re feeling don’t really belong to you, but come from your neighbor next door or a stranger you passed in a crowd.

Our bodies are giant tuning mechanisms for Radio Station Y-O-U. What you give the most attention to in your thoughts will broadcast outward energetically and will attract back to you similar emotions, situations and people. One of the things your body does naturally is to “pick up” other people’s broadcasts of negative emotions, pain, or symptoms. This too is an illusion, because these feelings aren’t really yours. Asking “who does this belong to” helps you realize – and drop – other’s expectations and energy.

2)  You don’t need to know the answer to any of these questions, just keep asking them and the change will happen. If you learn to live in the question, without hardening and fixing your expectations around “the one true answer”, you’ll be happier because answers come more abundantly. Bellyaching about how bad things are or saying “this is just the way it is and there’s no point in hoping for better” only keeps you in the rut you’re in.

When you say “I wonder what it would take to start my own business?” instead of griping about not having one, you free yourself to go find out what it would take, get funding if necessary, study up for professional exams and so on. Use “I wonder what it would take…” to defuse the natural human tendency to gravitate towards the negative.

3) If we know the right questions to ask, we open up even more possibilities for happiness than ever before. Here’s an absolute barn-burner of a question to ask – and not be attached to any answer or outcome of:

“What generative energy, space and consciousness can I be to manifest ______________?”

Then say: “Anything that wouldn’t allow that to happen, I uncreate, dissolve and release it completely” and let it go.

If you have difficulty letting things go, I created a quick and easy consciousness bringing method that features healing of “issues” as a welcome side effect. It’s called ETHOS, it works beautifully, invisibly, and is entirely free to the public. You can download the whole method and participate if you like, in our online support community at: http://ethosmethod.ning.com

Put these questions to work and I guarantee, you’ll be happier, open more options in your life and witness amazing things happening that you never would have expected – gifts from nowhere, funds you forgot you were owed, old friends calling you’d wondered about just this morning and more. I’ve even seen miracle cures when people simply stopped needing to know the answer and rested contentedly in the arms of the question.

Try it, you’ll see!

And if you want more structured support around getting happy please do join our “Ethos For Loving Your Life Again” class in September. Bonuses & $70 off until September 1st. Read about it here:

http://maryamwebster.com/ethosclass/

And if you’d like to reply to this article with your experiences, you can do that in the contact form below. I’d really love to read what you have to say. B-)

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Remember when you were little and on a long car trip with your parents? At a certain point you started kicking the back of the seat, punching your brother and asking every two minutes:

“…are we there yet?”

Spiritual and personal growth is like that too.

Have you been “working on” yourself, or been on a “spiritual path” for a long time but just don’t feel there yet? Like you really don’t have the answers you want? Here’s how you finally get that, once and for all, in three different flavors for your pick ‘n play delight. Taken from advanced practices in my ETHOS Method (which sees its first birthday next month – woohoo!) and the Everyday Bliss Process.

In the below, the “thing you want to know the truth of” could be a decision, a thing to buy/acquire/maintain, a relationship, job, moving, getting the messages of and getting rid of chronic pain or symptoms – just about anything at all. The techniques you’ll learn here work equally well for all.

1. First Method: Take the item you’re wondering about the truth of and imagine it fitting into your heart. Does your heart feel heavy with that thing in there? Then it’s wrong for you. Does your heart feel light? Then that thing would be good for you.

2. Another take: Expand the thing you’re wondering about the truth of outside your head to the size of your room, then your house, then your city, state, country, the entire world. Expand that thing right out to the edges and beyond the end of the universe. What happens to it? If something doesn’t have enough substance behind it to nurture and sustain you, it will disappear or feel spacey. If instead that thing gets huger and huger and fills your entire attention span, then that is the truth of the matter.

3. And One More: Put your hand on your heart and your other hand on your solar plexus. Remember feeling very deeply loved, or in love – that time when it’s 100% joyful.

Yes, just like that. Just feel it, and how it feels in your heart and stomach.

Now, take your hands off your body and notice the floor, the walls, the color of your clothes.

Place your hands back on heart and solar plexus. Now remember a time when you felt the pain of rejection or breakup and feel that in heart and stomach. These are two poles like north and south on your “bliss compass”. Contrast this thing you wish to know the truth of against these two feelings. Which does it feel more like? Which feels lighter, more joyful, more irresistably attractive? This will be the truth of the situation, the thing you should do right now, that which you need to pay attention to. Go there.

These are three ways intimately connected with your own core truth. You can use these tools like a magnet to attract exactly that which is best and most desirable for your life.

Taken together and spiced liberally with ETHOS to step on into that Unlimited Self that doesn’t need protection spells, charms or symbols, you now have the Key that unlocks the secret of every conundrum you will ever be presented with.

What will you do with it? What doors, boxes, windows, gates and pathways will you choose to open? I’d love to see your thoughts on this below…

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Join Our Festive and Transformative Holiday Party!

This call was held: Friday, December 19, 2008 at 2pm Pacific, 5pm Eastern, 10pm UK. Replay is below…

We learned a technique my husband taught me on our first date…and worked with “chakra lights” in a brand new way…

This technique is a blend you’ve never experienced before – and it will be yours from now on.

During this call, we also covered points from the upcoming Magic of Consciousness and 12 Keys to Bliss programs that you can use to make your holidays sane havens of peaceful living including:

• The Stop Stress Side-Step
•  Lost Key To Bliss – The Law Of Allowance
•  Regaining time & Solving Problems through POC/POD Collapse

But there was also a higher purpose to this telegathering.

“The opportunity for us to grow exponentially as individuals and community is already present.”

Many people are feeling the pull towards a new dimension of being, thought, and freedom from limitation.

Consciousness. It’s in the air, it’s being talked about all over.

There is an unprecedented opportunity at this time of year to use the magic of the season and the increased goodwill to create even more consciousness in yourself and in the world around you.

How will you leverage this opportunity as an individual? As a member of a community?

Together, we are much more powerful that we are individually.

In this call we discovered just how powerful we are together, using what we learned.

We learned how to remain Present when all around you dissolves in chaos – particularly when family members and stress are present in the same gathering.

Got Sanity? (particularly at the holidays)

No? Then listen again below…it’s totally no obligation, and my gift to you.

Oh and speaking of GIFTS, there was a RAFFLE. The prizes  are:

1) THREE Amazon gift cards (will you choose books, appliances, gourmet food…or something else?)

2) TWO of my Everyday Bliss For Busy Women books

3) ONE personal 30 minute ETHOS Session for a helping professional (with the snag that s/he has to get ETHOS out to their clients)

We’ll see who won those tomorrow, after we go through all the many entries!

Entries for the raffle are CLOSED now, but you can click here for the replay AND download of the call through the last day of 2008 ONLY.

Enjoy and Happy Christmas, Solstice, Kwanzaa, Hannukah, Mother Night  and New Year to you!

Warm Blessings,
Maryam

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Below is a post I wrote in one of my women’s networking forums for a business owner who wrote in wondering about how to deal with stress. As it’s pertinent, I’m reposting here:

M— wrote:
The psychological manifestations of stress are sleeplessness, nausea and fear. Work-related stress can be responsible for numerous physical conditions, including raised blood pressure, headaches, indigestion and increased heart rate, but the emotional toll is often the thing that is most difficult for women to handle.

Thank you for surfacing the issue of constant stress, M—. Overwhelming stress is the primary thing I work on with my female executive clients, and I have some suggestions I’d like to share.

Upsetting data about women and stress caused me to write my last book: “Everyday Bliss For Busy Women” (www.everydaybliss.org). Specifically, the finding in 2006, that working women in America today for the first time in history, have rates of serious stress-related disease and fatality from those diseases (heart attack, stroke, cancer, digestive disorders and mental illness) that exceed those of working men. And not by just a little bit, but a lot. What a shocker!

The good news is that we can ameliorate these effects and disease processes by focusing on eliminating the EMOTIONS of stress…which as women we’re very good at feeling and being able to manipulate. Keep reading for how…

M— wrote:
Is dealing with stress about setting boundaries? Understanding your role between being a worker, lover or parent? Or is part of our genetic make-up to feel stressed out?

Genetically speaking it is not our make-up to constantly feel stressed out. An organism can’t survive long in such a state. However, we live in a greatly artificial world. We wake and go to bed when we please by electric light, not the natural light of the sun that does the regulating of the hormones in our bodies, in part. Without this natural regulation, stress hormones can creep up, and the happy hormones that make us feel good can be decimated. The result is a body and emotional rollercoaster that can’t ever catch up.

~*~*~*~*~ Stress-Busting Bliss Tip: Night light ~*~*~*~*~

Avoid bright lights after 9pm and keep the windows of your bedroom blacked out as much as possible while you sleep. This allows one of our “mellow out” hormones, melatonin, to rebuild in the body. If you sleep with a night light or flip the light in your bathroom on when you get up at night, the whole melatonin rebuilding cycle (along with others in the body) crashes just like a computer and you have to start from scratch when you go back to sleep again. This is assuming you sleep in near-total darkness. You need a good six to seven hours of near-total darkness (not just thin, grey twilight kind of dark you get with sheer curtains or streetlights outside on all night) to rebuild this hormone and re-establish its regular cycle. Substitute a blue or green bulb if you must have a nightlight, cover the faces of bright electric clocks and hang heavy curtains. Give it a month and see how much better you sleep and how much calmer through the day you are.

Moms who leave a night light on with baby – try this with them too. It cuts down daytime tantrums, colic and a host of other baby and toddler related unhappiness!

~*~*~*~*~ Stress-Busting Bliss Tip: Boundaries ~*~*~*~*~

Dealing with stress can be about a lot of things because it is unique in profile to the individual. If you put others needs above your own consistently, you definitely need to set better boundaries. A great book for this is “Where You End and I Begin” by Anne Katherine (Amazon link: http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-Where-You-End-Begin/dp/1567312365).

A really good tip for dealing with others is to LOSE the automatic “Yes, sure I’ll do it// I’ll help/ you can count on me” that most of us have been taught is the polite response to requests for our time. It’s perfectly okay to insert a pause to think followed by “I’ll get back to you on that”. If someone won’t stop or wait for you to give your schedule a consult or wants you to make a decision RIGHT NOW…it’s never going to be a good decision, and certainly not the best for your stress levels. Being polite often gets you walked on. Re-evaluate your priorities if you feel you must say yes to everything. Choose three things to accomplish in any given day and if others requests or even other items on your own list don’t match up to those three things, they don’t get done.

Boundaries are important to protect you from yourself sometimes too.

~*~*~*~*~ Stress-Busting Bliss Tip: ETHOS ~*~*~*~*~

These are just a few things you can do to make your life a lot more sane and stress-free and I hope they help.

I also spent the last few years developing a new self-help method as a humanitarian gift to the world, that I’d like to share with you. The emphasis is on personal transformation but the “side effect” we notice is deep healing on personal issues. The technique falls into the area of energy therapy, somewhat similar to EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) but completely different, much simpler, and was created to be “culture-free”. The gist is for people all over the world to be able to use ETHOS and benefit from it. – no beliefs are required, and no terms are used that cannot easily cross international barriers. Well, only the word “yes” which we’ve found to be positive cross-culturally.

ETHOS by the way stands for “Energy Transformation and Healing Open Source” Method. So while I developed it, its ongoing development is now in the hands of a dedicated group of coaches and therapists in an open source consortium. You can download the whole thing, listen to me delivering a class on ETHOS and join in our community discussions here:

http://ethosmethod.com (click on “Learning Community”)

It’s all free, you don’t owe me a thing but to use it, get out of the stress that you feel and share it with everyone you know.

Warmly,
Maryam

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Below is a post I made to a high-level email list of advanced energy coaches and therapists. It answered a colleague’s question regarding Emotional Freedom Technique:  "What is the intention of the tapping? To reduce SUDs, eliminate distress, or enhance mindfulness?"

But back to  SUDS, distress and mindfulness.

Hello my friend, thank you for asking. 

Intention is one of the main reasons I’ve found in my research, why certain methods don’t work well upon occasion, or don’t work 100% all of the time. (yes, even those ones many of us hold near and dear to our hearts).

What is our intention as practitioners? As petitioners at the gate of forever?

In not choosing, we choose. In choosing not to make intentions, we make intentions. I believe knowledge of some of the inner workings of the universe and how we affect it all the time by our thoughts, beliefs and intentions, is crucially important to knowing how to work any method.

Intention is a natural clockwise/counterclockwise conjugate spiral energy flow that as far as I know, runs much of our experience if not all of it.

Think of a Moebius strip with positive energy running down one surface and negative energy running up the opposite surface. You try to connect the two ends. Attraction/repulsion factors of the differing valences cause the strip to twist and bend into the familiar infinite loop. Bent back upon itself, the ends meeting where like attracts like, it is possible to fasten such a strip.

Such is consciousness, for it folds and bends back on itself as well, seeking the familiar, repulsed by the unfamiliar.We often get lost in those folds and end up snoozing down at the bottom of one of those bends in the strip of consciousness. That’s how routines get started and encoded into imperatives. Mindfulness and intention are sovereign remedies, plus the knowledge that we are truly, without Limits. And can have an infinite variety of things that we desire, including elevated levels of Presence, abundance and joy.

This all may be a crock of manure and not true of course but…it appears to be working for me…I’ll bet it works the same way for a whole lot of us here.   

And Mindfulness = Presence = The Ultimate Resource State from which all magical things might be accomplished. And become quite mundane.

That being said, as myself and a small but devoted band of colleagues developing the new ETHOS Method, (about which you’ll hear in the August 18th ACEP teleclass <hint: I’m giving the class>) have found that the Ultimate Resource State is what I/we call the Unlimited Self. I pondered very deeply *why* certain personal development methods didn’t work well sometimes. One of the reasons that I found is that many of them come from the point of view of us needing to be fixed and of healing. Not that these aren’t perfectly valid occupations, but fixing and healing are like slapping a bandage on the problem and never getting to the real issue from which said "problem" distracts.

We only have one Problem at the root of it all. That problem is, that we are endorsing the absence of awareness of our Unlimited Self. And the more we endorse or give energy to something, the more of that thing we get. Conversely if you desire the polar opposite of a bad situation, that too will manifest. Basic energetic dynamics.

But we most certainly are not in need of being fixed. We are already standing blindingly close to that perfect self – our Unlimited Self.

Most humans stand a bit outside to far outside awareness of this template of their Unlimited Self, unlike animals who live so much more honestly than we. You look at a dog or a cat and it fully embodies the joy of being fully Present, fully alive.

A cat is guaranteed never to give thought to its grocery list: "three mice, one pitcher of cream, four scoops kibble, two bags litter – check, check, check and check. Now…where on earth do you suppose they keep the herring?" A dog or cat will never go so fully out of consciousness as this – and as humans do on a consistent basis. I advise my students to study animals for pointers on their spiritual growth. They’re much wiser than we in such matters.

So in short, in creating ETHOS, we are predicating an energy transformation method on the premise that self is already perfect and not in need of help or fixing. This predicate and our main goal to re-embody and live life through our Unlimited Self, has been of phenomenal use in increasing effectiveness and reducing recidivism in clients who may in time come to take back their problems – a common difficulty in all therapies (energy therapies included).

And yes, this is an intention, but also a realization, and active participation in reality as each of us chooses to fashion it.

More on this shortly. And if you’d like to be kept aware of the news, changes or want to be involved, check out our very new (and still being populated – be an early adopter!) ETHOS website: http://ethosmethod.com

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When a need is felt, heroes arise, doors open, poets are inspired and birds sing new songs. When God closes a door, s/he opens a window. And when things we think we need are taken away, better and more elegant things arise to not only take their place, but provide superior levels of service…if we but open our eyes to them.

I’ve long been pondering energy therapy methods and why they sometimes work and sometimes fail. It’s a particularly interesting conundrum, as when energy therapies work, they work spectacularly well.

Let’s start at the beginning. From the very first premise, I think most therapies are taking a direction somewhat skewed from that which would provide the best chance of success. Most therapies start with the premise that something is wrong, there is a ‘problem’ and the person with the problem is in need of fixing in some way.

I say, no.

I say that the real problem, the only problem that truly exists, is the fact that we’ve managed to convince ourselves both individually and as a species that we have limits. That we in fact can be limited: by ourselves and by others and by circumstance.

What if….

What if we truly have no limits?

What if that is true?

And being true, what does that mean? What does this realization give you?

It gives you your Unlimited Self – your perfected self, minus all the sludge, junk and limitations. And this is where a consistently workable energy therapy might choose to begin – with that template of you without any limitations whatsoever.

The template for that Perfect You, that Unlimited Self is out there. Not in our DNA, as many therapies are now concentrating, for genetic abnormalities can begin literally as sperm meets egg. Look further, right next to you, right inside you. Your Unlimited Self template exists in the energy field – has always existed, will always exist.

Myself and now a close group of energy therapists and coaches have been developing a new personal transformation method over the past two years. It includes its own, very new brand of energy therapy, somewhat superficially similar to several other methods, yet completely unique. The last few months have seen significant strides on both the tools of this method and in client studies I have conducted with over two hundred different clients and issues.

The name of this method is ETHOS, which stands for "Energy Transformation and Healing: Open Source". The ETHOS Method was created in response to the need for a permanently free and very easily learnable energy therapy that would be useful in a variety of issues, with a variety of different cultures and in all possible situations where one may be able to use the hands and may not be able to do so.

It is "open source" in much the same way that some software is open source – the source code is free to all and development is done by a large developers community who donate their time to create this free gift to the world. You can use it, teach it, make money with it, create a revenue stream with it  – anything you want. And you don’t have to pay us a dime.  All you have to do is promise to teach this method to as many people as you can, forward them to the original ETHOS website and to assume your own liabilty in using the method. And, if you make any significant  changes or additions, to post those to our "Addendum" board.

Interested? We’ll be releasing the website and further content very soon. And you’ll be invited to a free class on how to use ETHOS for yourself, your family, friends and clients.

We’ve come to understand it’s not the issue focus that makes an energy therapy work….

It’s not "getting specific"….

It’s not holding, tapping, breathing, visualizing or repeating a mantra…

It’s not your choice of tool at all… they all work.

It’s where you start.

When we start out with every problem we encounter as a limitation we have somehow bought into, the goal is really removing all limitation back to that template of our Unlimited Self. When we start with Unlimited Self as the focus, we don’t need to know the specifics and it doesn’t matter which tool we choose to go forward with, as the power of your intent is fully enough to get the job done.

Tools are nifty though, and our old-brain monkey minds just love tools as focusing aids.

We are now in active beta-test trial of the new ETHOS Method. After several years of having my private client list closed, I am reducing my usual session fees and opening to new clients willing to test-drive this most extraordinary method for the next few months. Want to book an appointment to go further with me in recovering your Divine / Perfect / Unlimited You? I promise you’ll leave each session walking on a cloud – and you’ll learn in session how to stay that way.

These appointments won’t last long – get ‘em while they’re hot! Click here to proceed.

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"a perfected self template". could it really be that simple? what would it mean if it was? deletions in the foregoing allow for creative expansion. comment if you have gnosis. 

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