» Archive for June, 2008

“I want more money…is that true?”

Friday, June 27th, 2008 by Maryam Webster

Friend Stever has just returned from a retreat and meditational sojourn that included much wheat grass and beautiful gardens with live peacocks. He’s been scrubbed and detoxed to a sparkling shine. Congrats, Stever!

As we were talking about his reatreat, The Work of Byron Katie came up, as she is one of Stever’s teachers. Eckhart Tolle just loves Katie and feels her work is highly relevant to a peaceful presence practice. Stever turned me on to some of Katie’s videos that I will be sharing here to help your Presence practice. This one is of Katie discussing with one of her students a bugboo many of us have – money. It’s not only revealing, but amusing. Enjoy!

 

The Reluctant Entrepreneur: “But I’m not Motivated or Confident…”

Monday, June 23rd, 2008 by Maryam Webster

yes...This just in from correspondent J.W.:

"I got my NLP practitioner certification last year, but have been lacking the motivation, understanding and confidence to start up my own practice. Do you have any advice to give me to pursue a practice as my end goal?

Secondly, I’ve found it very difficult to use the techniques on myself as both client and practitioner, to help me move toward my goals, and away from problems. Are there any specific techniques you’ve found useful for working with yourself when you’ve been less than willing to change at that time?"

Hi J.W.,
Thanks for writing. The first question I’d ask you if you were my mentee is "why do you want a private practice"? You need to know the true answer to this before you can even begin to think about setting up shop. And btw, "to make money" is not a valid answer. That goes without saying. Now, why do you *really* want to have a private practice. This is something you should address with your coach.

I would also, personally, do a year of NLP coaching with a recognized master on your own issues if you find yourself so resistant to using NLP. You need to be a veteran of technique usage if you’re going to be selling sessions in that technique to your clients. If you’re not past your own resistance to the technique, you won’t be a good coach.

Also, if you lack motivation, then the goal isn’t juicy enough for you to pursue. Work with the goal in mind until you find one that fires you up so much you’re glowing, and you’ll have no trouble. Perhaps a special group of people really has your heart – Maybe single parents? Those preparing for exams? People who’ve just been through surgery? These are just a few "niches" you could mine – you’ll think of one special to you.

Confidence is gained through practice, so practice with anyone you can. I assign all my students coaching buddies for this reason – find a buddy who went through prac track with you and get going. 

And now some advice you didn’t ask for but desperately need: start right now to take as many service business marketing classes as you can. Your business is not "doing NLP", your business as such is "marketing yourself". And I mean that in the kindest, non-prurient sort of way. Marketing yourself as a provider of NLP of course, but no one knows what NLP is. Who cares, when all I want is to get rid of this headache I’ve had for ten years or motivate myself to finish my novel or whatever else your ideal clients want. EVEN MORE IMPORTANT than marketing the technique (forget it, it’s a waste of time) is marketing the many BENEFITS that working with you  can give to your clients.

We’ll be having a special class on Promoting and Filling Your Private Practice given by Energy Coach Institute trainers in the autumn. You can attend wherever you are in the world. Sign up for my newsletter (fill in the "Free Blisskit" form to the left of this post) and you’ll be in the know as soon as we announce the class.

Self-coaching -  floor anchors are the best way to process yourself using the basic "mother of NLP" process which works for anything: Present State + Necessary Resources = Desired State.

I’ll post this to my blog as it’s a really great question that might be of help to others.

Warm Blessings,
Maryam Webster
Director, The Energy Coach Institute

http://energycoachinstitute.org

Rest in Peace, George Carlin

Monday, June 23rd, 2008 by Maryam Webster

Irreverent comedian George Carlin, author of such famous routines as "Seven Words You Can Never Say on Television", "The Hair Piece", and the wildly appropriate consumerism commentary "Stuff", had a terminal episode Sunday at the age of 71.

‘Terminal episode’ refers to Carlin’s observation that due to the cultural death phobia in America, no one in America dies, but is said to have ‘passed away’, or other euphemistic cover phrase. Click play on the above video to hear the whole routine, including the part about Carlin’s views on energy equalling deity, via "The Big Electron". He proposed alternative thinking about spirituality that started me thinking about the energy field in a very similar way to the recent advances in quantum physics, before such ideas were well-known.

Carlin kept me in stitches in high school, college, and through my adult life. His routines last the test of time. If you’re easily offended, don’t listen. George takes on religion, the government, even mom’s apple pie. But his observations are pithy and though often cutting, usually true.

Carlin’s observations on language, particularly his assertion "By and large, language is a tool for concealing the truth" greatly influenced me towards a lifetime study of linguistics.

He invited us to "Think off-center" and aptly quipped: "When you’re born you get a ticket to the freak show. When you’re born in America, you get a front row seat."

And don’t forget Carlin’s admonition to "Don’t sweat the petty things and don’t pet the sweaty things". Words to live by.

George CarlinWe’ll miss your clear eyes, acerbic wit and kind heart, George…rest in peace.

The below is excerpted from Carlin’s AP obituary by Keith Saint Clair, Associated Press Writer 

LOS ANGELES - George Carlin, who died of heart failure Sunday at 71, leaves behind not only a series of memorable routines, but a legal legacy: His most celebrated monologue, a frantic, informed riff on those infamous seven words, led to a Supreme Court decision on broadcasting offensive language.

The counterculture hero’s jokes also targeted things such as misplaced shame, religious hypocrisy and linguistic quirks why, he once asked, do we drive on a parkway and park on a driveway?

Carlin, who had a history of heart trouble, went into St. John’s Health Center in Santa Monica on Sunday afternoon complaining of chest pain and died later that evening, said his publicist, Jeff Abraham. He had performed as recently as last weekend at the Orleans Casino and Hotel in Las Vegas.

 

could it really be that simple?

Sunday, June 15th, 2008 by Maryam Webster

"a perfected self template". could it really be that simple? what would it mean if it was? deletions in the foregoing allow for creative expansion. comment if you have gnosis. 

amazing times & inspiring videos

Thursday, June 12th, 2008 by Maryam Webster
Here’s a nice visual Bliss Break for you. Just watch the rainbow incense smoke flow past your eyes and take a little one minute break to fully relax your entire bodymind. This reminds me of how inspiration flows, in many different hues, bends, nooks and crannies of the universe. If you study quantum physics, this is very like the flow of protons on Feynman paths.

Inspiration is flowing from so many sources that I want to share, yet have had little time to write about. I’m finding wonderful online resources just falling into my lap though. Here’s one that will point the way from the Institute of Noetic Sciences.

IONS is a place you really want to check out: http://www.noetic.org and is one of my primary professional associations. I highly recommend it to those who are attracted to my writings and personal transformation in general. IONS sponsors a series of videos at  http://oneminuteshift.com entitled: "Snapshots of Awakening" that the below is an example of.  Very satisfying and brief Bliss Niblets.

Here, the spiritual teacher Adyashanti speaks about Awakening.

And nope, you really *don’t* need to have all your stuff together to be Awakened.

It can happen any time, any day, any minute, any second. Now, if you prefer.

Testing Reality

Wednesday, June 4th, 2008 by Maryam Webster

Very highly topical as a small but dedicated team of colleagues joyfully collaborate on the creation of a new energy transformation method, is the Seed Magazine article on Reality Tests. A team of physicists in Vienna has devised experiments that may answer one of the enduring riddles of science: Do we create the world just by looking at it?

To wit:

Some physicists still find quantum mechanics unpalatable, if not unbelievable, because of what it implies about the world beyond our senses. The theory’s mathematics is simple enough to be taught to undergraduates, but the physical implications of that mathematics give rise to deep philosophical questions that remain unresolved. Quantum mechanics fundamentally concerns the way in which we observers connect to the universe we observe. The theory implies that when we measure particles and atoms, at least one of two long-held physical principles is untenable: Distant events do not affect one other, and properties we wish to observe exist before our measurements. One of these, locality or realism, must be fundamentally incorrect.

Thick, but if you’re into science or interested in quantum realities, worth a read:
http://www.seedmagazine.com/news/2008/06/the_reality_tests_1.php