Everyday Bliss

I’m replying to a comment Elizabeth made on the previous post about Women, Math and scientific ability. (BTW, you’re welcome to comment on ANY of my posts folks!)           ***                       ***                          ***                       *** Hi Elizabeth, thanks for posting your story of the lesbian transsexual. Libido and math ability enhanced on male hormones, interesting! (but probably not suprising) I heard a geneticist on the radio a few months ago say that while all babies start out female in the womb, a wave of testosterone is released that masculinizes boy fetuses and also wipes out up to 70% of the communications center, among other areas in the brain. He likened the effects of testosterone to acid saying it could well be used as a weed killer, of all things.

I also think of the sex and the brain research I read in grad school in the early 80s. One thing that stuck with me that I read – in primitive tribal times, by virtue of biology, women looked after the children and needed to be aware of spatial relationships only as they concerned the space between toddling children and dangers such as a cave mouth or open fire for instance. Their use for such a spatial/relational skill was minimal however, and children were comparatively slow moving targets.  They had a greater need to know what was going on socially to keep interactions peaceful to maintain the status quo for the stability of the whole tribe. The conclusions at the time were that this was how women developed intuitive, creative answers to problems.

In contrast, the men who went out hunting and gathering needed immense pattern recognition skills to tell friend from foe, when dangerous animals or geographical situations were present or imminent and the like. They had little need for social skills except to communicate around the needs of the hunt. This they theorized, was how men evolved logical, spatially oriented coping skills. (and yes, I realize this is a greatly, greatly over-simplified overview)

It seems like a reasonable theory to me, and as a woman or man, I’d not feel demeaned by it. Even in the lifespan of one person, they will develop new skills in relation to their occupation, geographical locale and the like. It’s a reasonable surmise. So to conclude, I see nothing wrong with acknowledging thousands of years of evolution that play towards men having a better shot at being math geniuses, women at being therapists for instance… but then there are always exceptions to that seeming rule.

And of them are women like Sophie Germain, a natural exception, who contributed significantly to solving Fermat’s last theorum by playing a man to do so. (http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/nova/proof/germain.html) And take your pick of famous male therapists.

There is also a lot to be said for nature versus nurture. Until very recently, girls were not given all the educational opportunities boys were. Boys were taught a certain curriculum and girls, another, if they were taught at all. That curriculum certainly did not include the sciences. Until very recently in historic time. Many of the female savants that have come through the ages usually had a parent or other authority figure actively tutoring them or otherwise allowing free access to knowledge in the "male" domain.

It will be interesting for future writers several hundred years from now to look back upon this period and note all of the women AND men who excelled in professions heretofore barred to their sex, which have sprung from the 20th century on forward.

What might we all do, when unbound from the conventions of society -  and even more, from the limits of our own belief systems?

The possibilities are literally, endless.

When I was young and wasn’t doing so great in math, my teachers told me "that’s okay, you’re a girl, you’re not expected to do great, just well enough to balance your checkbook." another teacher said "your husband will balance your checkbook, don’t worry about not getting an A in math." They patted my shoulders consolingly and advised my parents to have me tutored in summerschool, but not to worry overly much about it as "of course, she’s a girl, she’s not going to do as well as her male classmates".

You’d think I was a D student, but I wasn’t, I was doing B+ work at that point. But from that moment, so says my mother, I began to do very, very badly at math. And continued to do so as my teachers patted and consoled. Right down into the D range, where I stayed through most of my elementary school education. I managed to pull it up to a C in junior high and high school, but math is never going to be "my subject".

This illustrates what a very POWERFUL influence Beliefs are on performance and perceived ability. NLP, EFT, ZPoint, TAT and any of the energy therapies out there are powerful ways to remove such limiting beliefs. And check out the research that proves how devastating belief can be on other women in the math department:

VANCOUVER (AFP)—New research shows that when women believe they are
genetically bad at math, the belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy.

When it comes to mathematics, the divide between men’s and women’s
talents may be due to misinformation more than genetic destiny, new
research in this western Canadian city suggests.

A report published Thursday in the peer-reviewed journal Science
showed that women exposed to theories saying females are genetically
bad at math performed far worse on math tests than women who had not
been exposed to such beliefs.

So-called "brain sex"–genetic differences between men’s and women’s brains–is a hot new research subject.

It’s so contentious that earlier this
year Lawrence Summers resigned as president of prestigious Harvard
University in the United States amid an uproar after he suggested that
women have less intrinsic ability in math and science than men.

Psychologists Steven Heine and Ilan Dar-Nimrod, co-author of the
Science report, studied how 220 female students performed in math tests
after reading fake research reports–all entirely invented by the
psychologists–with bogus claims about males being better at math.

Read the whole article here: http://www.seedmagazine.com/news/2006/10/how_to_make_women_flunk_math.php

Have I written about my office? It is mobile, Starbucks, Borders, Barnes & Noble – anyplace with either T-Mobile or free wifi hookups. Andy and I were talking about how we who work out of our homes tend to be cooped into the wake-work-sleep-in-the-same-place lifestyle. He goes to Panera, I go to one of my office sites around town. "I’m in my Cupertino office today….have to run up to the San Francisco office and check prices on single pull double-demi’s." Sounds cosmopolitan….isn’t. This is a picture of some of my cellmates officemates today at 6:45pm in the Stanford University Starbucks. They are a changeable lot. This fellow in the foreground looked suspiciously at me as I took the picture. I was pretending to be intensely interested in a text message and console myself in the fact that at this resolution, he is probably unrecognizable.

I am enjoying playing mobile offices but here folks, someone out there please invent this for me: A Maxwell Smart-like plastic bubble to lower over my head to have private cellphone conversations and block out the incessant drone of corporate jazz….  Said bubble should fold up and fit into a 3" x 5" pouch, suitable for carriage in the laptop bag. 

Orchids to ya on this warm, warm California day….wonder-admin Mario and my homegirl Lisa are both experiencing wading through inches of snow in Canada and Boulder respectively. Feels downright unnat’cherl, and I am tuning in to the leaves change in my homestate through a webcam as they tend not to in California. How weird is that….

It is morning in the Santa Cruz hills and I am sitting by the Fern river, meditating in the mist by the water’s edge. I am joined by a tiny, striped black and yellow orbweaver spider, who, minding her own business, crept onto my boulder seat and meditated beside me peaceably for an hour.  Her kind are fittingly called "writing spiders" because of the white zigzags in their beautiful webs. Beautiful creature, beautiful place. I hope the lovely rushing of the water comes through to you as beautifully as it is caressing my mind today…Namasté

Cortisol is a hormone that is release by the body in response to stress.
Its effect on the body is to increase blood pressure and blood sugar
levels. It also causes the immune system to get weaker, bone formation
to decrease and inflammation to lessen. In fact, artificial cortisol,
called hydrocortisone, is intentionally used to fight inflammation. However, short-term exposure to cortisol can actually improve memory, but at a terrible price…

Read the rest of this nifty short article here: http://www.braingle.com/mind/index.php?id=629;r=0610

And if cortisol exposure has left you frazzled, sick or depleted, get your energy back here:

http://quantumflow.com

In my previous post on the “Piece of
Cake Process”, we were setting three anchors of resourceful states, stacking
those anchors and taking them into a present state where you are feeling
non-resourceful. I’ve been asked by those who don’t know hypnosis or
neurolinguistic programming, “how do I set an anchor? and what exactly IS an
anchor?”

An anchor, is a place in
the body/mind that holds a powerful memory of an emotion, time and place where
you were uniquely resourceful and could do anything, or unresourceful and
unable to do things for yourself. When you first rode a bike and fell off, it
may have set a NEGATIVE anchor in the part of the body that hit the ground.
When you first knew you could do something all by yourself, such as make your
bed on your own, it set a POSITIVE anchor, perhaps in the arms and hands that
drew the sheets and blankets up so nice and tidy.

Both Positive and Negative
anchors have their uses…

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We left our sample goal at a new , more Reasonable Goal: "One month from now I weigh 166.67"  But…that’s not really right, is it?  We can definitely make this Setup better!

7. Let’s do what we call "Checking Ecology". We don’t want to set an unreasonable goal nor one that might be physically compromising. Checking in with our healer or medical person will tell us that between two and three pounds a week is a safe amount of weight to lose…though perhaps on the high end. No problem with having this as a goal then, as it fits within the possible, probable and safe range of things (and most of this in the beginning will be water weight) – this is what we mean by a goal’s "ecology"

8. Now that you have the Reasonable Goal in hand, you need to look at the Setup Statement again. We have:

"Even though I weigh 170 pounds, I choose to weigh 166 pounds by November 7th. (one month’s time)"

While that’s great, it’s still not as full and engaging as it could be. It’s cumbersome and just a bit clunky. Plus which, my conscious mind is not quite believing it.

9. This is where we will get creative and also add some Power Punch energies into the mix to ensure we are FULLY ENGAGING the Law of Attraction to power your desire. The energies with the highest vibration are those of Love and Gratitude.

There is also a very powerful process that we’re going to bring in to really punch up the volume: Allowing. Most things we want to move away from, like pain for instance, are in our lives to tell us something – there’s a message in that stomachache, headache, or other condition, such as our unwanted pounds in this example. When our first response is to go in the opposite direction from the "message", we don’t get the message and it is obliged to come back even more forcefully. That’s why sometimes headaches get worse the more we try to get rid of them!

So in this case, welcome what you’re trying to shed. Love the extra fat. Sound ridiculous? Then fake it ’til you make it.

There’s something real, a tangible benefit you’re getting out of having those extra pounds, the headache, the bad situation at work – or however you’re applying this Setup Phrase. While it may not sound like it – "What? You think I WANT to have this headache? / Be this large? / Have this fight with my  spouse? – That’s crazy!"  But think about it. You wouldn’t be here if there wasn’t something that some part – even a Very Little Part – of you was getting out of keeping the situation going.

Have a think about this. IF you were getting something out of it, what might that be? You don’t need to know to go further, but it’s worthwhile to have a think on. Anyway, on we go…

So we will add the love, gratitude and allowing, and then have a Setup like this:

"Body, I love you SO much…" (really mean it!)

"…and am so grateful you have carried me at 170 pounds for this long. Thank you so, so much, Body!" (really, REALLY mean it!)

"I now choose to completely and permanently release four pounds of fat by November 7th…And I thank you with love and gratitude, for making this so."

10. Notice we are not including the number of pounds lost. That is because you will lose the four pounds of fat, but also may lose water weight and other poundage that is not fat based. This slight open end on the Set Up Statement allows for the major decrement to be in pounds of actual fat.

You can easily extrapolate the above formula to any situation you are tapping for. Here it is broken down:

You have a Problem that you are viewing negatively, and that Problem is held in place by a certain Part of yourself as mentioned above. Since negative emotions attract more negativity, you want to completely neutralize the "minus" slant before you even start. We do that by bringing in Love and Gratitude. And it works better the more you really,

Love the Part of you that is "misbehaving", if you will, and REALLY mean it. If you don’t mean it yet, SHOUT IT. Out loud, jump up and down and really get into it. Pretend you’re a small church preacher pounding the pulpit in the name of whatever you’re tapping on. This is after all, the "temple of your body" (mind/soul) and you have every right to jump and shout to make it healthier!

So the Setup Schematic goes like this:

————————————————————————————————– "I am so grateful to the (Part of Me) that has held (This Problem) for so long/until now/for the past  ***  years.

Thank you, (Part of Me)!

I now choose to completely and permanently (insert your Choice here).

I thank you with love and gratitude (Part of Me) for making this so." ————————————————————————————————–

This is your Setup Statement – fill in the blanks and then use it three times, just like normal EFT, tapping down the issue. When you finish tapping, to seal in the goodness you may want to give yourself a warm hug, or accept one from a partner or friend.

Try this "Well Formed Outcome" EFT setup and leave a comment here to let me know what you think.

Just click the link below to ‘talk back’ -  I’d be happy to hear how this works for you! Warmly, Maryam