Everyday Bliss For Women In Leadership

This just in from a fellow Buxom Beauty, and a very good tip for all of the well-endowed who practice EFT!

Dear Maryam  I want to tap the lymphatic breast point, but let’s face it, I’m not Twiggy. Where, exactly do you tap if you’re a bit buxom? Do I, uh, lift one up at a time and tap underneath? Thanks for your answer…

Maryam replies: I too am a big beautiful woman, but even our slimmer sisters who are well-endowed have to "lift it". Also, the Liver 14 "under breast point" and the neuro-lymphatic point close to it can both be tapped by using the karate chop side of your hand, lifting the breast tissue with your opposite hand and tapping with the same-side hand. The tapping hand cups the breast as it taps. Very comfy, great to make part of your morning and evening tapping routines.

If you only have one hand to work with, you can lift the breast tissue with your same-side wrist and allow the fingers to curve under the breast to tap the underside. Every time you tap the underside of the breast always make sure to tap the underarm, collarbone, thymus and to massage your sore spots. (Don’t know where these are? Check out the diagram here)

That way you’ll help your entire breast area to be healthy!

Here are pictures of some lovely people at the recent International Coach Federation Conference held in San Jose, California. Most of them I spent the day and much of the night eating with. At left you have the fantabulous Stever Robbins  with that wildman of blogging, Andy Wibbels. This as many in this series was taken at Il Fornaio restaurant in San Jose after a very long day of eating with different groups of people (Andy was a constant) about every two hours or so as the presentations conferenceside were frankly, boring. The conversation at these small get-togethers of friends and colleagues that have worked together for years (or just newly met) were on the other hand, stimulating, insightful and bred many new alliances, friendships and joint ventures…

Ah! And at that same lavish soiree were gathered myself, Donna Steinhorn, Carol Solomon and Sheri Horne - Il Fornaio’s Pizza Cristina was fabuloso as usual but the talk and cameraderie were surpassingly excellent…

We all agreed that the one nice thing about the conference was the Exhibition Hall, which was separated from the main speakers area by space and heavy curtains. I’m here with Andrea Lee and Tina Forsyth of the Multiple Streams of Coaching Income with the Pink Spoon I created while in the program. It’s literally my Certified Energy Coach Program Startup Kit free CD, with a real pink spoon from the icecream store attached as a gag for Andrea. Made ya laugh, A!  <g> 

Gosh, I look a little punchy. And no, I don’t do drugs - ’twas all the late nights catching up with me…as they were with all of us…

In between this late lunch and the cocktail hour, we were politely asked to move out of the restaurant while it was prepared for the dinner crowd. Not content to stop our chat, we took to the streets, ambling about looking for a place to perch. We ended up in the conference Networking area, a crew of "ribald refugees" that included here seen, Andy Wibbels, Donna Steinhorn and Kim George.

This was last thing at night, around midnight, after Andy and I had a final nosh, nibble and very late dinner and the equally irrepressible John Miles, here all the way from Devon, England. John is an energetic dancer and a brilliant conversationalist. This was one of the most interesting dinners I had…and a perfect end to a very, VERY long day.

Thanks folks, for a conference I’ll remember fondly for a long, long time!

It’s T-Minus Three Days To Thanksgiving… Do You Know Where Your Sanity Is?

Hi there, how is the ramp-up to the holidays treating you so far? If you’re at home with the relatives already, are Aunt Mabel and Uncle Festus driving you batty yet?  Are Mom, Dad and the sibs about to send you out into the cold just to get a little peace and quiet?

If you’re not fortunate enough to have the Perfect Family™ (who is?), you might enjoy a little present that myself and the Energies of Transformation crew cooked up today on our Borrowing Benefits monthly telegathering.  A little NLP, a little ZPoint Process and some old fashioned downhome energy magic combine to give you GREAT RELEASE of your Holiday Family Angst™.

Not content just to let go the funky stuff, you’ll also learn to create energy bubbles out in the future that burst over you at JUST THE RIGHT TIME (*before* the point you’re about to go batty) and automagically drive out the negativity, unhook you from childhood emotional reactions, and fill you with resource upon resource to lift you above the gunk: joy, love, happiness, clarity…and so many more I can’t go into them here.

So listen and enjoy BEFORE you get on that plane or go over the river and through the woods to grandmother’s house. You’ll be glad you did!

A Happy Thanksgiving To You and Your Entire Family!

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After picking up Andy in what he describes as my "EFT-mobile", I breakfasted with Stever Robbins, who wowed me with technology all morning as he sat at one of the conference computers. I ate my yogurt-granola-blueberries parfait standing up and looking on in amazement. When I get the URLs from him, I’ll let you know, but it was the coolest-ever online project coordination package and another that did client tracking. At least one of them was free to use and the other a paltry sum a month. That’s one thing these conferences are excellent for, learning new stuff!

After a rousing all-faiths spirituality-in-coaching workshop with Laura Berman Fortgang, Andy suggested I meet Suzanne Falter Barnes, whose birthday it was. Happy Birthday, Suzanne! I raised my water bottle to her and we toasted - she with champagne and such wonderful and charismatic energy. (may her arm grow ever stronger) Suzanne spoke of the Writer’s Spa she conducts with Jennifer Louden, and we had a mutual "aha" moment about some of the things we are both doing. Such a nice connect! Coming to such conferences is worth it for the sweet people one meets alone. And where better than a coaching conference to find such like-minded gems?

I decided to return home for a nap before the Gala. Many were leaving the conference before I got away, which cued outpourings of mutual admiration, goodbyes and warm hugs from everyone I met. I did so want to be able to chat, get to know people better and spend some more time just basking in the "coach glow". The conference was way too short in that respect. Despite the vagaries of the Program, I think I speak for everyone in that.

<aside> Anyone for ditching the exhibition hall and having a marshmallow roast around a roaring campfire out in the woods? Singing, tall tales, jokes, cameraderie and moonlit dalliance…now that would be my idea of a GREAT "unconference"! </aside>

Tonight saw the closing Gala for the International Coach Federation Conference. After a grand dinner with both roast beef and grilled salmon, small grand pianos made entirely of dark chocolate and filled with chocolate truffles and chocolate-dipped strawberries were served with champagne. I didn’t attend the program, but caught the aftermath of the dinner which looked wonderful. I saw Stever as I got to the dance but was whisked away by the irrepressible and spritely John Miles before I could do more than exchange a wave.

Stever, you still owe me an East Coast swing lesson.

Fortunately I didn’t suffer lack of partners. And that wily John Miles! Who knew he was the Disco King of Devon? He danced my socks off - I don’t think I’ve ever had a more relentlessly cheeful and energetic partner. Only wish I’d had more energy to keep on going (I think he probably still is…) His Rosie is a lucky gal…

A foray into the decimated banquet hall revealed chocolate pianos still stuffed with truffles and strawberries, just begging to be taken. A chat with local executive coach Vivienne Powell, happily met for the first time in a long time gained me introductions to Cheryl and Greg and made a warm connection to Viv herself, a coach I definitely value spending more time with. Amidst the destruction of the room by the night crew, we each took a chocolate piano, well wrapped in paper to protect from melting mess. SInce I’ve done the sugar process with my buddy Angela, I don’t really want to eat the chocolates (hurray!). I’ll take it home to the J-Bear though - he will enjoy waking up and opening the refrigerator to see an overstuffed chocolate piano staring him in the face.

And the night winds down….Tsahai Ungar of Oakland, another local and force of nature as "the Love Doc" and I ended up dancing with John after a lengthy and sumptuous group hug, brandishing roses from the table displays in our mouths, chest pockets and cleavages. My last dance was a slow one with a beautiful coach whose name was Eloise. Reminded me of the dances at the all-girl college I went to in the 70’s - she led masterfully and well. I’ve never been spun quite like that. Damfine lady, Eloise.

I met the beautiful and talented Valerie Green in the ladies room - we had a nice warm hug and good time chatting together. She is part of the crew that puts on the MSOCI conferences and other excellent networking opportunities. I am so glad I got to know her better and had the chance to really connect. It’s nice to know the people who do the real work behind the scenes at these events, and I’m so glad I got a chance to make that sweet connection.

That’s what this conference was all about for me - that sense of connection with others. My first conference as a fledgling coach I ran around like a crazy person. I handed out business cards and tried to talk to as many people as I possibly could in as short a time as possible. Such is the path of the newbie coach! Succeeding conferences have been different though. Focusing on depth of connection with fewer people has dramatically improved my experience of the conference, and has allowed me to get to know people more fully. From that place, we are all moving joyfully and energetically forward.

2006 promises to be the year that we all take off together in bigger, wider and at the same time, more comfy-cosy flights of business and personal greatness. Here’s a hail and a tip of the hat to the many of you that I am pleased and honored to know, to work with and to have grown closer to at ICF 2005.

Here’s to a relentlessly wonderful 2006 for us all!

Maryam Webster reporting after another day spent in the trenches with coaches. We’re all here in San Jose at the ICF Conference and are meeting the most FABULOUS people! There’s talk of blogs, (and of blog carnivals - wait for it!) Go Blogwild!, Andy Wibbels’ newest publication, joint venturing, conference concatenation, Coaching Innovation and what we’d like to see in terms of workshops for more advanced coaches. I’ve spent the last three days with Andy, whom I do not see enough of, and can say that it has been some of the most pleasurable and educational time I’ve spent in months. We met for dinner the night before the ICF conference here in San Jose, California and discussed Chitika, The Book, the future of podcasting and the great outdoors at Spiedo, on San Carlos Street. We lapped up the fabulous bruschetta, pasta and lamb grigliata, setting a gourmet Italian food tone that was to continue in successive days.

Thursday saw the Multiple Streams of Coaching Income folks, Andrea Lee and Tina Forsyth, rolling out their new book "Pink Spoon Marketing"  (cue supportive "hurrahs!" from the assembled crowd). I bought a copy of this very heavy-in-the-conference-bag tome and can’t wait to read it.  The book is currently photocopied and looseleaf bound, though I suspect it will see perfect binding in short order. It also came with five CDs that a cursory skim-through listening told were worth the $297 conference price. It will be a joy to read the book and give a more thorough review. 

Susan Austin was on hand at the Coaching Innovation booth talking about the Coaching Makes A Difference project to help coach victims of Hurricane Katrina. She was also reporting for the Blog-Squad-ICF-Conference project and disgruntled to find the wireless in the conference hall was not all it should have been. <*cue embarrassment for Silicon Valley, home of computer wireless!*> Undaunted, the effort goes on, this is my entry into the fray.  I’ll speak for all the rest and say that though the day was tiring, it was very, very good to see friends we don’t ever see in person but once a year, but who are so dear to our hearts.

Friday, workshops were the last thing on people’s minds as networking, joint venturing and a very late lunch at Il Fornaio predominated. It’s White Truffle Oil month at Il Fornaio, and all who have ever heard my White Truffle Oil Blog Success Story know what *that* means. (grin) I dined in the scintillating company of the aforementioned Mr. Wibbels, Donna Steinhorn, Kim George, Sheri Horne, Stever Robbins and others in the know about good conversation, news of the industry and as ever, more Italian food. We stayed so long talking that they threw us out and we ended up back at the networking station outside the exhibition hall laughing ourselves silly and having a ton of fun.  I’m to have Stever as my date at the Gala tomorrow night - he will be teaching me East Coast Swing while trying madly to follow my lead. Or something like that. 

Tomorrow dawns bright and early and I am off to bed.  All of us here are glad we came, but are musing upon at less expensive, more experienced-coach-content-rich ways of doing this more often. Who knows what might come out of it? I’m for a coaching retreat, where things get worked on but there is ample time for socializing, fun and room for opportunities to grow.

All for now, signing off…

So all day from today through Sunday (whew!) I’m going to be at the International Coach Federation conference at the McEnergy Convention Center (okay, it’s really called the "McEnery" but I couldn’t resist!) in San Jose, CA. Thank goodness, one conference I don’t have to fly to or get a hotel for! If you’re going to the conference and read this blog, please do come up and introduce yourself.  (see below for instructions on how to recognize me currently - grin)

Andy Wibbels and I are planning a reunion "let’s get cosy" party to which everyone is invited, at 7pm Friday in the Palm Room (aka "The Baronial Hall") to the right of the front desk of the St. Claire hotel. The hotel is right across Market Street from the convention center, at the corner of San Carlos St. The award-winning Il Fornaio restaurant is just down the hall and will cater our meals or drinks to this gorgeous front lounge area, replete with massive fireplaces, wing chairs and an amazing painted ceiling straight out of a 16th century English castle setting.

There is even, I believe, a tapestry or two.   

Website with the outside view of the hotel that you will see from the conference center is here:

http://www.thesainteclaire.com/index.html

I’m coming to the conference to relax, so you’ll probably find me lurking around the massage area waiting my turn, cooling off in the coffee bar or strolling around the convention center just hangin’ out. Please feel free to grab me and chat - I’d love to meet you!

One update: I’ll be easy to recognize as the short, chunky, bespectacled woman with the equally short, spiky hair colored in multiple hues of flame & fire. I light up like a carnival ride in the sun and tend to wear a lot of purple and green. People aren’t recognizing the new hair, so I thought I’d serve an early warning. <cue merry laughter>

Look forward to meeting everybody!

Good Morning! I thought a great Thanksgiving present, before I do something else with them, would be to list for your pleasure, all the cool audios you can get at my blog here. Listen to ‘em now, because in a short while they will be morphing into something else entirely as I put them out on CD!

Here’s a rundown of some of the best:

1) Energies of Transformation 10/05 - Included in this audio: Thymus talk and getting the immune system going, Sedating the Triple Warmer Acupuncture Meridian (chills out that "fight or flight" mechanism that keeps us stressed-out all the time) Saying "No" and Getting paid for your work (in a whole lot of different ways), creating a "safe space", agoraphobia. Certified Energy Coach Program student Coach (and ace psychotherapist) Jane, does an excellent ZPoint session and we finish with my classic "Eye Asterisk".

2) Neg To Pos - Lightening Fast with Angela Treat Lyon - Angela is a white-hot EFT Expert with a new idea a minute and all of them solid gold. Come tap along with us here as we use the "power of negative emotions to create positive, powerful results".  This is a fast method that pounds ‘em down quick, and you don’t need to go back to specific incidents - you can change your mind IN THE MOMENT! Excellent call to Borrow Benefits on.

3) ZPoint Process with Grant Connolly - Here’s the audio for today’s Energy Coaching Borrowing Benefits class with Grant Connolly, who taught our Certified Energy Coach Program students the whole ZPoint Process, for Procrastination. Try it, and Borrow Benefits yourself!

4) EFT Lecture-Demo for Acupuncturists -  Here I address a gathering of advanced acupuncturists at the Santa Cruz campus of Five Branches Institute College of Traditional Chinese Medicine in a lecture and demo on Emotional Freedom Techniques. We discussed how EFT can help their patients cope with stress and symptoms between visits and generally extend the work acupuncturists do by stimulating the same meridians used during treatment. Acupuncturists can even further customize EFT by suggesting specific points to stimulate for the patient’s particular condition.

5) Release Your Writer’s Blocks with EFT -  And then I came home from the beach and acupuncture school to facilitate this great call with Andy Wibbels (king of blogging , podcasting and online communication) and all the wonderful people who attended to Release Writer’s Block with EFT.

Listen, Release, and Enjoy!