Everyday Bliss For Women In Leadership

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I’m visiting Dallas and hubby Jason, who has been on the road with work for weeks upgrading servers at exotic foreign outposts. I have kindly been gifted both ticket and hotel accomodations courtesy of his company as it’s hard to be away from your sweetie this close to Valentine’s Day. (isn’t it just!) Anyway, if you wanted to see what our Certified Energy Coach Program’s on-the-road "corporate headquarters" looks like, you’ve only to gaze at the moblogged pic here. It took a laptop, two telephones, a hotel ethernet/modem converter, my trusty Olympus digital recorder (we record all classes for student reference) and its associated Radio Shack record-from-phone dongle, but we got the thing done in the end. And what with me calling into the bridgeline from my cellphone, that’s three phones in all. Amazing what technology can do!

The CEC Program Manual PDF is visible on laptop screen with the section about the magic of Beliefs, which I was reviewing after class had ended. Speaking of which, we have a magical group of Energy Coaches in the Program plus are fortunate enough to have several of our grads returning for a refresher. What a wonderful mix - it’s such a pleasure to be able to be with these wonderful people. I feel greatly blessed in my chosen profession to work with some of the sharpest, most compassionate and intelligent coaches and healers in the land. Each day brings wonderful new suprises from each person and in my own practice as well. Can’t say better than this, it’s a wonderful life!

Of Dallas I have seen little as yet. The Beltway, the Galleria for dinner and the Concierge Lounge in the hotel for brunch. We intend to go museum hopping tomorrow and Friday, perchance to ride an antique train. But not today. It was a joy just to relax in the room until Jason came back from a day of fixing server bumbles. And so nice not to have anything to do for a change. Having said that, I surveyed the mess of our room after flinging bags and clothing hither and yon, and not being able to help myself, flew around cleaning it up for a pleasant hour or so.

I actually typed "pleasant". I’m turning into a regular hausfrau. Every time I exit our on-the-market house, I have felt I must clean it down to the last little bit of ‘Noushka fluff and leave it spotless as a museum. A girlfriend who is selling up herself reflected that it took a lot of energy just to live in such spotless splendour. She’s right. I don’t know how my mother, bless her, managed for so long. I can remember her complaining about the (invisible to my teenage eyes) mess in every room, and dusting with a ferocity rivalled only by her zeal at beating the living daylights out of our few scatter rugs and carpets. Now I fret over the anguish of an abandoned sock, veggie peelings casually littering the sink, the kitties flagrant indiscretions with their bits of fur, discarded whiskers and occasional claw casings.

"And ‘oo’s left to clean it up? Me, THAT’S ‘oo!" to mangle a quote of Hermione Baddeley’s in Mary Poppins. Me indeed. Cleaning is good for the soul as my mother used to say, but too much clean is just as bad for it. While I love sitting in a freshly cleansed living room and thrill to the sight of spotless Corian, I ache just to put things down as I wish and not take them up again until I need to. Family photos too have been banned, and I miss those dear, familiar faces peering out of their dated frames. I long for some of my own artwork on the walls instead of the bland, banality of "decorator" designs. Too soon this will all change though.

The one thing that can be counted on is change. I was reminded of this at the recent MSOCI conference by one of the speakers who noted that from time immemorial the sages of our world have spoken of the immutability of change. As I packed my office to go on the road, I marvelled at the ability to do a thing that twenty years ago, would have kept me chained to a desk and not allowed me to work so wonderfully free from constraint. That I was able to book a ticket and fly here in but a few hours to stay a few days was something we just wouldn’t have done a quarter century ago. That one can take what in 1980 was an entire roomfull of machines, squash them into a box the size of a highschool yearbook and furthermore, connect to the entire rest of the world via the Internet is nothing short of astounding. But only one thing could bring us to this place - Change.

In fretting over the dropping of a sock or random scut of cat fur, I realized I was desperately desirous of casting a spell to freeze time and not allowing Change to occur. Or rather, not allowing myself to flow with the Change that with or without me, is going to occur anyway. A lot of energy was trapped there, frantic, nervous energy such as I witnessed in my mother when her precious homegrounds were besmirched. I decided that I could let this go.

In the night before I left for Dallas, Anoushka blanketed the carpet in the living room with half the fur on her little body, and managed this without even breaking a sweat. Toshkit industriously pulled a claw casing off of each and every claw, and strewed them around the coffee table. The bathroom floor was grubby from kitties playing on wet tiles with dirty paws fresh from the garden. Crumbs littered the wood floor around the kitchen carpet. These were also all nearly invisible to the untrained eye…but *I* saw them and was on the verge of freaking out, when I decided to say "the heck with this noise!" And with seven house showings by various agents plus two open houses scheduled, I kissed the kitties goodbye (leaving them in the competent hands of Uncle Max) picked up my bag and headed out into the pre-dawn fog and my waiting taxi. It felt very, very good.

How do you seek to block or avoid Change in your life? How much energy do you have tied up in resisting Change? What would happen if you surrendered to the inevitability of Change? Would you be willing to? And when?

Are you having a tough time finishing your book, report, project or gaining inspiration?

Try the CREATIVITY TAP!

First: Think of your project, get it firmly in mind. DON’T start with the frustration of not being able to go forward! Start with what inspired you about the project in the first place. You want to keep it on an upbeat note to tap back into that passion you first felt for the work.

Second: Using the TEMPORAL TAP technique, tap with both hands on top and around the back of both ears, from the place where your ear attaches to your head in front, around the back and ending under the earlobe. Keep your taps in the channel where your ears attach to the head and simply keep focused on your project.

Don’t bust your brain, just think gently of how exciting it was to begin and even what mechanical actions you did (typing, cutting and pasting, walking to the library to do research) that began the work. Tap THREE TIMES from front to back of both ears while thinking of these things, then take a DEEP BREATH. . .

Third: Sitting or standing, cross both your arms and your legs (if you know how to do the CROSS CRAWL, go ahead and do the motions). Keeping the limbs crossed, take THREE DEEP BREATHS, then release the position.

Fourth: Now, if you’re sitting, get up, if you’re standing, start walking. Walk back and forth or twirl around in place for a minute. If possible, go outside and get some fresh air while you do this. If you’re chair or bed-bound, turn your body or your head as far as you can to the right and left, look up and down while breathing normally. This will quite literally give you a "different viewpoint" and shake the ole’ brain cells out of their rut.

Take another DEEP BREATH, and let it go. Let your mind relax and keep your eyes softly unfocused, at a point about five feet in front of you on the ground. Breathe normally for a minute or so.

Finally… Resume your working position, take another DEEP BREATH and get back into work, completely refreshed! If one iteration doesn’t do it for you, run through this process several times. It usually doesn’t take more than that.

Enjoy!

PS: Did this help? Not help? Do something else entirely different for you? Please take a moment and post your thoughts on this exercise by clicking the "Comment" link below. I love feedback. (and remember NLP guys ‘n gals - there is no failure, only feedback) Your feedback here helps everyone who reads it to learn and grow - me, most of all…

Andy Wibbels, Da BlogFather and I at the MSOCI conference. What a truly wild ride! Moblogged from the hotel lobby…ain’t technology a kick? This is about as blurry as I feel after only a few hours sleep last night. And Andy is a darling, handsome man though he looks a bit manic panic here…oh wait, that’s just me. Fifty copies of the QFB Demo CD flew off the product table in a matter of a few hours, people are excited about the Certified Energy Coach Program FREE Startup Kit, and I’m meeting awesome friends new and old.

This is the whole reason to go to conferences folks. I’ve talked with Andy maybe several dozen times on teleclasses and just chatting but never met him until now. Amazing man and such a sweetie in person! And darling Tsahai from my year as an NLP student showed up to our mutual delight - we’ve decided we must work together on a project given our complementary talents. Such fun! And such dynamic connections that we can renew over and over again at such events. If you’re contemplating whether or not to go to a conference, my vote is "go if the subject is delicious" as there will be so many side benefits.  I wouldn’t miss ‘em for the world!

As for the Multiple Streams material itself, the presenters were all amazing and I generated several more ideas for leveraging content I already have. Minimal work involved and packaging is everything. If you don’t have the book and you’re a solopreneur, you really need to get it. Available here